Woman Uninvites Her Mom To Her Wedding For Humiliating Her Husband-To-Be With A Rude Gift

Sep 12, 2023 by apost team

Every couple wants their partners to be respected, especially by their families, as seeing one’s family disrespect one’s partner can be heartbreaking. A woman with the username ThrowraMom567 was in a similar situation and asked the Reddit community in 2021 for their opinions. The woman shared that she and her fiance, Kevin, were from different backgrounds as she is Hispanic while her husband-to-be has Irish ancestry.

“I f25 am getting married to my fiance ‘Kevin’ next month,” she began. “My family love Kevin and Kevin loves them. However, my mom is the ‘brutally honest’ type who constantly dish out her opinions and thought on what people wear, how they look, how well off they are... Mostly negative, tasteless, backhanded comments. She says she can’t help it and that no one should be offended when she’s just being honest,” the original poster (OP) shared.

The 25-year-old bride-to-be revealed that her mom also made backhanded comments about her fiance after she met him, but some stern conversations with her mom fixed that. 

“But she kept annoying Kevin by constantly talking about his hairless face (his face is clean he doesn’t have a beard or mustache which he can be very insecure about,” OP revealed.  

She remarked that her mom, stepdad and brother, 31, constantly joined in the jests while her mom joked that Kevin was “unmanly” because he had no beard. Since her mom’s jokes hurt her fiance, OP warned her mom.

However, OP’s mom responded, “Oh I didn’t realize those remarks were offending him I was just teasing him” or “you know me I’m just giving my humble, honest opinion so he shouldn’t take it personal and should learn that this is how I am.”

Nevertheless, OP’s mom apologized to Kevin, and the couple forgave her. Meanwhile, OP’s wedding approached, and to celebrate the occasion and as part of her apology, her mom gave Kevin a gift during a family dinner.

Kevin opened the gift upon her insistence and saw that she had gifted him a set of shaving tools and shaving cream.

“Kevin stopped for a sec and kept staring at the gift,” OP revealed. “My stepdad took it and showed everyone then mom and others started laughing while stepdad kept saying ‘you get the joke Kev? You get it?’”

Additionally, OP’s brother went around the table to make fun of OP’s fiance. Then, Kevin left the dinner, and OP lost her temper. She asked her mom why she humiliated her fiance, but her mom was unperturbed. She said it was a joke to mess with Kevin, so OP asked her to apologize.

“She said no since she wasn’t responsible for his reaction and thought he was going to laugh along. I angrily said ‘no apology, no wedding invitation, period’ then walked out,” OP disclosed. 

Her mom then called to say that she overreacted. Her brother also told her she was “crazy” to uninvite their mom from her wedding because of a silly joke. 

“He said Kevin should get over it since it was a joke but I refused to send an invitation and withheld until/unless she apologizes. They think I’m unreasonable choosing this to be my hill to die on and called me disrespectful for how I treated my mom,” OP added.

OP also pointed out that her brother usually teased her fiance by boasting about his “goatee mustache” or making ridiculous jokes about beards in his presence. However, her mom started the disrespect.

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Redditors thought OP was correct to have demanded respect for her partner. 

“NTA,” someone answered. “Tell your brother, mother etc that the whole wedding was rescheduled and at another venue. When they complain, that they missed your wedding just say ‘It’s just a joke! You should get over it, I was just messing with you.’”

Another person responded: “The sad thing is that Kevin will never get any respect from these people, and they will only get more intense with their BS. This is how my family is. I can’t stand them. The best he can do is ignore OP’s family at the wedding completely. Don’t talk to them. Don’t even acknowledge that they’re there. And stay away from any family events for at least a year. Then the first time they bring it up. Add another year.”

A third Redditor suggested that OP and her fiance get revenge: “Invite them over for dinner saying you want to make up and that it’s all good. At the end of dinner have Kevin present your mom a card and in it it’s a you are not invited card. See how funny she thinks it is when you’re serious,” they said.

Another Redditor suggested, “i would suggest going NC asap because people like that are f***ing awful and as soon as they’re out of your life you’ll feel better about yourself and your relationship.”

However, some thought that Kevin should run. 

“This. If I was Kevin, I would call it off. Things are not going to get better, they can only get worse. OP’s family is not going to change, I know the type and have dealt with my fair share. Kevin will always be an outsider, everything will be done to remind him of this fact at every opportunity,” they said.

What do you think OP should do? Do you think she was right to have disinvited her mom to her wedding? Let us know — and be sure to pass this on to friends and family for their thoughts.