Woman Advocates That Grown-Up Children Should Not Be Criticized For Going No-Contact With Their Parents

Jul 05, 2023 by apost team

The parent-child dynamic is something that changes through the years from childhood to adulthood. Over time, adult children tend to be farther from their parents as opposed to the close bond in their formative years. Many factors could lead to such situations, including starting a family, moving far away from home, or choosing a career path that takes up time and schedule. 

However, in some cases, negativity within the family could lead to estrangement. Situations like child abuse, violence, and sexual assault could breed resentment and the need to be away from parents. 

A social media user caught people's attention after bringing up the topic of parents-children relationships and how parents are cut off by their adult children. While she was of the opinion that adult children should not be made to bear the blame, other media users had different views. 

According to statistics, there has been a rise in the number of adult children who cut their parents off in recent times, which was obtainable in past years. An expert study from 1997 that centered around family relationships in later life revealed that 34% of adult children severed ties with their parents. 

The stats showed that 7% cut ties with their moms while 27% were estranged from tier fathers. Over two decades later, in 2020, the statistics exponentially became steeper, according to research done by American sociologist Karl Pillemar. 

Per Pillemar's findings, one out of four Americans could have cut ties from their extended families or an estimated 67 million people. Usually, the reasons for such estrangement often border on sexual abuse, emotional and physical abuse, and deep-seated trauma from childhood. These perspectives are often sare by adult children. 

In the case of TikToker, Chassity Marchal, she felt it was unfair for adult children to be put on the spot after cutting ties with their parents. She shared a clip on her account with the handle @chatwithcass, noting that individuals needed to desist from telling people who are not in contact with their parents to reunite with them. Marchal began:

"Stop telling people who are in no-contact with their parents that they need to either make things right, they need to talk to their parents or that 'that's your mom, like how can you just not talk to her.'"

Marchal recalled someone in a previous live session telling her to fix things with her mom because she was "not guaranteed tomorrow." She decried this by stating that she had "26 years worth of things that have happened." The content creator added that if it was her spouse who had done all that her mom did and said to her, people wouldn't advise her to stay with him, and she felt it should not be different with parents.   

She noted that she had boundaries and would not let people treat her as they deemed fit. Marchal added that it was not easy for her to stay away from her mom, and she was still unhappy about how things turned out. Regardless, she decided to put herself first and did what she felt was best. 

Despite Marchal’s address, some followers still felt she made a rash decision. One follower insisted that it was easy to replace a partner, but parents were irreplaceable. The user also relayed that Marchal might regret her decision someday. Marcal replied with a second clip noting that kids were also irreplaceable and parents should treat their children better.

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