Wife Rounds Up Family After Her Husband Orders DNA Test On Their Child To ‘Shut His Mom Up’

Oct 10, 2023 by apost team

On Sept. 21, 2023, Reddit user @u/SituationFluid6098 shared a post detailing a situation that has put a strain on her three-year-old marriage. The original poster (OP) started the post by explaining that her mother-in-law (MIL) has been thorny with her unnecessary input in their marriage. While the OP didn't fault her husband for his mom’s actions, she was out of place with him not addressing his mom’s misdoings when she was clearly uncomfortable with it. 

While the OP was used to brushing off her MIL's snide remarks, she got to the breaking point when the latter questioned the paternity of the OP’s son, subtly accusing her of infidelity.

“For a while now she has been making comments about how my son doesn't look like my husband when he was a toddler,” she wrote.

“It has been a week since my husband, -well, soon to be ex husband- told me that he would be doing a paternity DNA test, not because he thinks that it's not his son but to shut his mom up,” she wrote.

While the OP was confident about the DNA test’s outcome, it was the last straw for her. She began looking for an apartment and sought legal counsel the day after her husband requested the DNA test. As the family was waiting for the results of the paternity test, the OP was working on the divorce papers to be delivered to her husband on the same day.

The OP took solace in the fact that she didn’t quit her job when she married her husband, noting that he had become unreliable despite making enough to support the family. She revealed that she would rather leave with her child than have him experience his parents being in a toxic marriage. 

In an update to her first post, the OP shared the events that followed the receipt of the DNA results. On the day the result was expected, she invited her father-in-law and mother-in-law to the house that evening. 

"He was working when he got the results," the OP said of her husband. "He sent them to me and told me he would talk to his mother to finally put this to rest."

She informed him that she had invited his family and was waiting for an apology before leaving. 

When he called her, she dropped the bombshell, revealing that she had filed for divorce. The OP’s husband hurried home from work, and the couple had a fight that ended with her husband pacifying her. She eventually handed him the divorce papers, and although he refused to sign, she insisted on proceeding with the divorce. Despite the severity of the case, the OP’s MIL refused to apologize. 

“His mother said, ‘She has nothing to apologize for. She wouldn't apologize for having suspicions. She didn't accuse me of anything and I can leave if I want to,'” she wrote.

Seeing that her MIL had no regard for her and stood her ground rather than apologizing, the OP left the house that night. Her husband's mishandling of the matter also reminded her why she wanted to end the marriage. Eventually, her husband informed his parents that he would visit them periodically until his mom apologized to the OP. The woman remained unfazed by her son’s decision and hurled curses at the OP for taking her son away.

Although the marriage was still hanging by a thread, the couple decided to explore couples counseling to save their marriage.

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Redditors on the platform took to the comment section of the post to share their varying opinions on the topic. 

“Op please make him do a paternity test on himself for his dad and to tell his mum he’s doing it. Love to seee the reaction lol,” one Redditor commented.

“OP your MIL is a narcissist and lacks the ability to have any empathy for anyone else. It is best for you to have no NC with her and if your husband is to have any sort relationship with you or your son he should also have NC with her as well,” a second Redditor commented.

“Your marriage is salvageable if you both work at it and focus on your marriage and immediate family (not in laws),” a third Redditor wrote. “Your husband f**** up. If you decide to give him another chance, truly give a chance and give him an opportunity to improve. Don’t hold grudges. Good luck!”

“He needs to go NC with his mother. I wouldn't even entertain counselling until he committed to that first. Because any counselling you guys go to will be undermined by his mother,” another Redditor opined.

“i think you were right in your choice of wanting a divorce. You married a momma's boy. He needs to learn to value you, more than his mother (and not just by a fraction of a percent, but by a large margin), for your marriage to work. You may need to instruct him on that,” a user wrote.

“I’m kinda leaning towards divorce. Dear woman, you said that you are starting to hate him… couples counseling only works so much - Ikfe. Keep your eyes open and don’t stay if it’s just a bandaid. Good luck,” another user commented.

What do you think of the man ordering a DNA test done on his son? Do you think he should have confronted his mom instead? What would you do if you were in a similar situation? Let us know — and be sure to pass this article on to friends, family members, and other people you think would have an answer!