Wife Crashes Her Husband's Family Dinner After Regularly Being Excluded From It

Apr 08, 2022 by apost team

When it comes to being married, most couples have a lot to celebrate. They may have already reached some other milestones in their relationship, such as moving in together or even buying a house, and may be on the way to starting a family of their own. However, there can be some complications that come along the way, as it's important for couples to do their best to get along with their partner's family.

Unfortunately, this was easier said than done for one woman. She went to Reddit in March 2022 to ask users if she was wrong for the way she handled a recent situation. The original poster (OP) explained how she and her husband have been married for three years so far and dated for two years before that. Her husband's family has a tradition of going out to dinner once a month. While everyone else's girlfriends or fiancees are invited all of the time, OP found herself only being invited about half of the time.

This was beginning to wear on OP a bit, as she was unsure why she wasn't invited to every dinner. Not only that, but it seemed like she was very unwanted there, and her husband showed no signs of doing anything to remedy that.

Frustrated with the situation, OP decided to take matters into her own hands and crashed her husband's family dinner after being told that it would be best if she didn't come. This resulted in plenty of issues between OP, her husband and his family. Since then, she has asked Reddit users for their advice on how to move forward.

In her Reddit post, OP said that her husband is "a really good guy in other areas." She explained how he and his two brothers – all in their late 30s to early 40s – have a tradition of going out to dinner once a month with their parents as well as their significant others. "I am invited about 50% of the time," OP said.

She continued, "When I say I'm not invited, I mean that my husband tells me, 'I'm going to the family dinner. It's probably best if you sit this one out.'" This has resulted in several fights between the couple, but OP wanted a change.

"About a week ago, my husband went to a family dinner that I wasn't invited to," she said. "I was very pissed. So earlier that day, I called and made a reservation at the restaurant they were going to. My husband left the house, not knowing about my reservations, and I left 15 minutes after him."

OP was sitting somewhere where she couldn't see her husband and his family, so she walked past their table, pretending that she was headed toward the bathroom. She saw everyone there, including her brothers-in-law and their partners. After her husband tried to confront her, OP simply said that she wanted a steak for dinner and decided to go out to eat.

"My mother-in-law said it was very rude of me to interrupt their family dinner," she said. "I pointed out that I wasn't trying to join them, I was just going to the bathroom. I told them to have a good meal and I left. I went and finished my steak by myself."

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After OP and her husband separately went back home, they got into a huge argument. "My husband said that the decision to invite was between him and his family, and I should respect it," OP explained. 

She wondered if she was right or wrong for essentially crashing the family dinner and asked Reddit users for their thoughts. Many users chimed in to express that they didn't believe OP was in the wrong, and they advised her to either seek help for her marriage or potentially even end it.

One user commented, "Are you part of the family or not? If your husband doesn't want you at the family dinner, then does he really want you as a part of his family?" Another said, "This is so weird. I don't think I'd be able to let this go if I were in your shoes and I'd be seriously reevaluating my marriage."

In a separate post, OP updated Redditors on her situation. She explained how she and her husband finally had a long talk about why she wasn't invited to the family dinners and found out that her mother-in-law didn't like her for several reasons.

"I was obviously devastated after hearing that," OP said. "But it also felt good to finally hear an explanation." However, she revealed that she and her husband were spending time apart, and she was actually staying at her sister's house for the time being. It seemed like their marriage was headed toward an end. OP said, "We'll probably end up separating or getting a divorce, but right now it's too early to tell."

What do you think about the way this woman handled a tough situation in her marriage? What would you do if you were in her shoes? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your family and friends.