Mariska Hargitay Says Adoption Is Not For 'Faint Of Heart' — Her Faith In God Supported Her

Mar 09, 2022 by apost team

Mariska Hargitay had a turbulent start to life when her mother, Jayne Mansfield, died in a tragic car accident in 1967 when she was just 34 years old. Hargitay was only three years old at the time and sadly was in the vehicle at the time of the incident, along with her brothers Miklós (Mickey Jr.) and Zoltán Hargitay.

Luckily, all three children escaped with minor injuries. We can only imagine how traumatizing it was to witness the accident first-hand. But Hargitay survived the accident, and the grief, and has not let it ruin her life, instead, she has taken her mother’s legacy and made it into her own.

Mariska was born in Santa Monica, California. Her father was the Hungarian-born former Mr. Universe, Mickey Hargitay, who passed away in 2006 at the age of 80. After the death of her mother, Hargitay was raised by her father and his third wife, Ellen Siano, along with her siblings and half-siblings.

Hargitay followed in her mother’s footsteps by entering beauty pageants. She was crowned Miss Beverly Hills USA, and also competed in the Miss California USA. She later attended acting school. She is best known for starring as Captain Olivia Benson on the NBC drama series Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. It was in this role that Hargitay’s strong resemblance to her mother became apparent. 

Mariska is now a mother herself. In 2006, she and her husband Peter Hermann welcomed a son named August into the world. Then, in 2011 the couple ended up adopting two babies just six months apart. Their daughter Amaya was born first, followed by Andrew, who was born prematurely. Keep reading to learn about the challenges and triumphs Hargitay faced while adopting. 

Hargitay, who is now 58 years old, told PEOPLE the resemblance to her mother is an honor and tribute to her and helps her feel as if “she is still with me.” As she was only three years old she doesn’t remember the crash, but she does have a daily reminder of it: a zig-zag scar on the side of her head.

Decades later, and a lifetime without her mother, Haritgay reminisces on her career in comparison to her mother’s. Hargitay told PEOPLE, “My mother was this amazing, beautiful glamorous sex symbol—but people didn’t know that she played the violin and had a 160 IQ and had five kids and loved dogs… She was an inspiration, she had this appetite for life, and I think I share that with her.”

As well as her acting career and striking looks, Hargitay is the founder and former president of the Joyful Heart Foundation, a charity close to her heart that provides support to survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, and child abuse.

After being compared to her mother for the majority of her life, she has now embraced the similarities. “Someone once said about [remembering] my mother: ‘All you have to do is look in the mirror’,” she recalled. Married to actor Peter Hermann, who she met on the set of Law & Order: SVU, she is content with her personal life and public life.

Hermann and Hargitay share three children, two of which were adopted in 2011. While they are happy and content now, there were challenges along their journey to becoming a family.

Hargitay recalled the ups and downs of the adoption process in 2012. "I'm not gonna lie," she said. "There were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, 'Adoption is not for the faint of heart.'"

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The couple had their son August biologically but noted that adoption was always something they wanted to do. "I was really letting the chips fall as they might because I do think so much is up to God. I always said, 'I don't know how this is going to end up. I don't know if I'm going to get pregnant and have twins. I don't know’ … But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan," Hargitay shared.

Unfortunately, the road to growing their family was filled with false starts and letdowns. Mariska said, "There were several cases that didn't work out. A lot of different kinds of complications. Then, after disappointments, came the big hope — which ended up being dashed. But, while it may be ironic, the hardest disappointment was also the greatest moment, in terms of what it means to help build a family."

Finally, they got their daughter Amaya in 2011. Then, six months later their son Andrew came into the picture rather suddenly. "I don't really know what to say about it, other than it was a no-brainer. Peter and I both thought, Let's do it! I'm in!" Hargitay said. "It was like...a miracle. And I don't use that word lightly. I've never made a bigger decision so quickly. The whole thing happened in a total of two days."

Hargitay relies on her faith. "I think God runs the show. Completely. Life proves it every day: He runs the show," she said, and added, "I think God is very much in us. Faith is a huge part of our life. And I think everything happens for a reason"

The family of five is still happy and healthy in 2022.  

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