Man Stirs Up Anger For Refusing To Drive His Disabled Wife To Their Son’s Wedding
Jul 31, 2023 by apost team
Misunderstandings are common among families, and everyone has probably disagreed with a sibling or a relative at one time or another. However, when misunderstandings are not quickly resolved, they can lead to long-term conflicts and resentment. If this is not resolved as well, it can turn into a feud between those involved.
Family feuds are not new. Sometimes, family members can fall out with one another and choose to stay away. Feuds can arise between relatives, spouses or parents and their children. They can also happen between different families. These conflicts can end in a short while, but some also last for years, sometimes until the death of one of the parties involved.
In certain instances, feuds can even last for generations, continuing between the children. A classic example is the tragic tale of Romeo and Juliet. In extreme cases, family feuds can lead to violence, murder, and revenge.
Misunderstandings are just one of the things that can lead to feuds between family members. Other issues that may cause disagreements include having opposing viewpoints, beliefs and values, and an unwillingness to compromise. Just like misunderstandings, these issues can make family members decide to stay away from those they are in friction against.
In the case of the Original Poster (OP) in the story below, he and his son had been feuding for a while. Hence, when the son refused to invite him to his wedding, OP decided not to drive his disabled wife to the wedding. He then turned to the Reddit community in February 2023 to ask if he was right in doing so. Continue reading to know why his son did not invite him.
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The man asked the Reddit community for their opinion in February 2023 after his wife and brother told him he was in the wrong. He went on the “Am I The A**Hole" thread to describe what happened and ask for other perspectives on his situation.
“My son had his wedding days ago. We had some past issues that affected our relationship. No we’re not on speaking terms after he decided to sell his grandmother’s home (my wife’s mother) instead of keeping it,” the OP explained.
The man explained that his son sent his wife an invite to his wedding, but he didn’t get one and wasn’t angry, nor did he fight it. However, in return, he chose not to drive his wife to the event, which was three hours away.
OP explained his decision and wrote:
“I said that since I’m not invited to the wedding, nor am I taking part in it then I shouldn’t have to drive there.”
He continued:
“My wife told me I was being unreasonable and (that) I was punishing her for our son’s decision but I told her it was on her to make travel arrangement since she’s an adult. Or, he could’ve provided proper means of transportation for her and not assume I’d go there when I’m not welcome.”
The couple argued, after which the wife arranged for an alternate means of getting to their son’s wedding. The OP’s brother ended up driving his wife to the wedding. However, his wife refused to talk to him after she came back. OP’s brother also told him it wasn’t right for him to have asked his wife to arrange her transport when he wasn’t busy and the car was functional.
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Comments under the post were mostly divided as some felt that the wife shouldn’t have assumed her husband would drive her. Some also thought the son was at fault for not arranging for his mom’s move to his wedding. A Redditor wrote:
“NTA. It doesn’t matter what OP and son fought about. The fact is that the relationship was severed, and the son should’ve considered that when extending the invitation to his Mom. Mom should’ve also considered that instead of assuming that Dad would drive three hours, sit in the car and wait for her and then drive three hours back. I would never expect that of my spouse, disabled or no.”
However, most of those who responded to the man’s post thought he didn’t act his age.
“YTA. She’s right, you were punishing her because of your son’s decision. If she hadn’t been able to find an alternative ride then she would’ve been trapped at home and unable to go. You would’ve forced her to miss something really important because your feelings are hurt and your ego is bruised. Forget the drama with your son, this puts you in the bad husband category,” a Redditor bashed the man.
Another person agreed and commented:
“YTA. What he did with his grandmothers house is not your business. You’re being a really bad husband and parent, your poor wife and son.”
A third Redditor agreed:
“ESH. Your son for only inviting his mother and not making arrangements for her knowing she’s disabled and can’t drive. You for punishing her because of the conflict you have with your son just as she said.”
Another person slammed OP and wrote:
“YTA. Your son doesn’t like you and now you’re giving your wife reasons to not like you. Are you trying to die alone?”
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What do you think of this situation? Do you think the man should have driven his spouse to the event? Do you think the wife was considerate by expecting her husband to drive her to an event he was not invited to? Let us know — and pass on this article to friends and family.