Father Goes Back On His Promise To Pay For His Daughter’s Wedding After She Refused To Invite His Wife

Jun 23, 2023 by apost team

Weddings are special events that signify the start of a marriage. It is the celebration of two individuals from varying backgrounds coming together to unite, start a family, live together and ultimately make decisions together. Weddings are joyful events; the decor, food, laughter and love aren't typical in other kinds of social gatherings. 

A beautiful wedding event doesn't just happen; it results from months of planning, cancellation, strategy, and organization. Planning a wedding is not a walk in the park, as many things could go wrong before the main event. There are usually many decisions to be made on every detail of the event, making it a particularly stressful process for everyone involved. 

The couple, who are the wedding’s main focus, usually bear the brunt of the stress. One of the primary stressors for couples is the need to please their family members. Couples must stretch to accommodate families’ styles, budgets, food, drinks and comfort. While some couples succeed in doing this, others end up knocking heads with their families over their choices. The aftermath of such breakdowns could become lifelong problems if not handled properly. 

When it comes to family, including their preferred "plus one" on the couple's guest list could pose a problem, particularly when they are not comfortable with the said person. In one instance from June 2022, a Reddit user went back on his promises to financially support his daughter's wedding over her failure to include his preferred guest. Continue reading to find out why this father backed out of covering his daughter's wedding expenses.

A Reddit user concerned about his actions sought the opinions of fellow Redditors over his refusal to financially support his daughter's wedding. The worried dad took to the platform after finding out that his wife was not invited, causing him to swiftly withdraw his financial support.

"I am supposed to pay for the wedding, that's what we agreed on. We got the save the date invitations a few days after I put the payments through my bank (they need to be approved, so no money has been paid yet)," he wrote.

To give more context to his dilemma, the Original Poster (OP) explained that he had been divorced from his daughter's mother for 15 years and married to his current wife for eight years. He revealed that, unlike his other kids, his daughter never warmed up to his wife.

"My daughter never really liked my wife. They didn't get along well. My other two kids love her."

The distraught father confronted his daughter when he found out she wasn't inviting his wife.

"She said that it's her wedding day and she only wants to invite her real family. I said, 'Well did you invite Mom's BF?' and she said yes."

The 58-year-old asked his daughter to invite his wife, but she stood by her decision not to invite her.

"Well okay, then you should invite My Wife too, or I am not paying for the wedding," he wrote.

“She declined and said she isn't inviting my wife. I told her I'll cancel the payments then, and she didn't believe me,” he said. True to his words, the OP withdrew his financial support, causing his daughter and ex-wife to be angry with him.

“I canceled them, and my daughter is now super pissed at me, as is my ex-wife.”

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Most of the readers on the platform took sides with the OP, telling him that he wasn’t wrong for withdrawing financial support for his daughter’s wedding following her refusal to invite his wife. The Redditors weighed in on the writeup, dropping their two cents on the situation.

“I have no idea what people are thinking when they bite the hand that feeds them, so to speak. OP is NTA here. Didn't leave his ex for this wife. So daughter cannot state that and can't have it one way for dad and another for mom. Let Mom pay for it. Daughter sounds entitled. No one paid for my wedding, or most of my friends or sisters. We wanted it our way, so we all paid,” one user said.

“The daughter sounds foolish and short-sighted. Unless there is some mistreatment, abuse, cheating, etc. that OP hasn't outlined here at the hands of his wife, which there doesn't seem to be, the daughter just sounds like she wanted to say a big FU to her stepmom,” the Redditor wrote. “It isn't really a good idea to flip off someone out of spite if their spouse is the one funding your wedding,” they concluded.

Another Redditor believed there was more to the story, but ultimately, they agreed with the majority that the OP did nothing wrong.

“This is one side of the family's side of the story, so there could be something there, but even if it still falls through to ‘Snub and expect to be snubbed in return.’ and thus ‘Don't take favors from people you can't abide,” the user said.

What would you do if you were in the OP’s position? Would you go ahead and sponsor the wedding or withdraw your financial support like they did? Do you agree with the Redditors' opinions on the situation? Let us know, and pass this on to your friends, family and other people you think will have an answer!