Ex’s Current Girlfriend Pierced Kid's Ears Without Mom's Permission — She's Raging

Aug 19, 2021 by apost team

Being a parent is full of many special moments. From a baby's first steps to a child's first day of school, each of the firsts a parent has with their child will forever be in their memory. 

But one mother missed out on a special moment with her daughter when her former partner's current girlfriend took her to get her ears pierced. She didn't have the mom's permission, and after speaking with her ex, it turned out that he wasn't even aware it was happening either!

The mom found out when her 9-year-old daughter returned home from spending a week with her ex and his current girlfriend. Describing the time away as "lovely," the girl did, however, look "sheepish," as she hid her ears behind her hair. The mom only realized she'd had them pierced after her daughter was sitting on her lap.

Understandably fuming, the mother kept her cool with her daughter and simply complimented her on her new earrings. However, she called up her ex immediately in a bid to find out what happened. As it turned out, he didn't even realize it happened as it occurred since his current girlfriend was spending time bonding with the daughter alone. This makes the situation even more uncomfortable.

The mom then took her story to the website Mumsnet on Aug. 17, 2021 and vented about the incident. Many others were just as outraged as her and lent their support, but it still didn't change what had happened or give her back that special moment she missed out on. Let's take a look at the story.

The woman began her story by explaining that she co-parents with her ex and that it was his time with their "DD (darling daughter)." After spending the "lovely" week together, her daughter returned home with pierced ears, but it seemed from her bashful actions that she initially tried to hide them from her mom.

But as with all mothers, it didn't take long for the woman to realize what had happened. She explained:

"I had her on my lap, giving her a cuddle and realised that her ears got pierced."

Knowing that the girl was not to blame, the mom was calm and simply complimented her daughter on the earrings, but soon after she went to talk to her ex to find out the story behind what had happened. She goes on:

"When I spoke to my ex later, he had no clue and he had to ask his GF. Apparently, the GF went to the shops with my DD and thought it was a nice thing for them to do together."

What's more, she explained that the earrings were "just costume jewelry," and the daughter would need to be taken to a proper piercing shop to make sure the piercing is clean and get the earrings changed. She mentioned that she and her ex have never even talked about having her daughter's ears pierced and that she feels "blindsided" by what happened. She added:

"I would have much preferred them to bond over a shopping or a fun activity, not over my child getting her ears pierced."

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Not only was what happened a betrayal, it literally robbed the mom of that special moment with her daughter, so it's understandable that she was not very happy with what happened. She explained that she was remaining positive in front of her daughter but that on the inside she's really sad about it all. She wrote on Mumsnet:

"I know it's only pierced ears, but I did cry last night."

But other mothers know that the story isn't only about pierced ears; it's about missing out on witnessing part of your child growing up, and that's not even thinking about the betrayal aspect of it. So naturally, people on Mumsnet who read her story were raging on behalf of her. 

One woman wrote, "I'd be raging!" before adding, "At least ex is also apologetic about it." Another commenter was just as angry, writing, "I would be raising merry hell with the shop that did it for a start." Yet another pointed out more that was wrong with how things went down:

"Very irresponsible of your ex and his girlfriend. At 9, surely she's unlikely to be able to cope with the daily aftercare without help from a parent?"

Others said that while the girl was old enough to decide whether she wanted to get her ears pierced, it was not the girlfriend's decision to make:

"I think at nine she's old enough to have said no if she didn't want them done but it's a massive betrayal of trust on his GF's part! I would be insisting she no longer spends time alone with DD."

What do you think about what happened? How would you react if the same thing happened to you? Let us know, and pass this on so others can weigh in with their thoughts too.