Bride-To-Be Gets Angry After Her Fiancé Exchanged Her Wedding Dress With One His Mom Preferred

Sep 19, 2023 by apost team

Finding love and deciding to walk down the aisle with a partner is beautiful. However, the preparation involved in planning for the big day can be hectic and may come with several issues, including financial concerns and clashes of interests between the couple and family members.

In one such case, Reddit user u/Throwaway9757657, in a September 2022 post, detailed how there was a clash of interest between her and her fiancé’s mom over her wedding dress. She started the post by explaining that she and her fiancé were preparing to get married that December and noted that his mother, although nice, was an intrusive person. Coupled with the fact that wedding planning was hectic, the Original Poster (OP) noted that her fiancé’s mom was hesitant to agree on most things.

“His mom wasn't willing to agree on most things, and my fiancé said that since he's her only son then I should respect and appreciate this 'vision' she has for the wedding and how it should be,” she wrote.

When it was time for the OP to get a wedding dress, her fiancé’s mom insisted on accompanying her. The OP agreed, allowing her future mother-in-law to join her mom and her friends for the shopping. Fortunately for the OP, she saw the exact dress she was looking forward to wearing on her big day. To the amazement of all present, her future mother-in-law picked a different dress for the bride, stating that she always pictured her son’s bride in that dress.

Besides the fact that her future mother’s actions were weird, the dress wasn’t the OP’s ideal dress for her wedding. So she apologized to her future mother-in-law, thanked her for her input, and told her the dress she chose was what she envisioned wearing for her wedding.

The OP’s future mother-in-law, dissatisfied with the dress, expressed her disappointment to her son, who came home ranting. He accused the OP of angering his mom and sidelining her "from the process" while picking a dress. 

“I asked 'what process?' duh it's just a wedding dress...my wedding dress so I really didn't get how she should get a say at all!” she wrote.

The couple got into an argument over the dress, and the OP's fiancé advised her to consider his mom’s choice since there wasn’t a significant difference between the two dresses. She turned down his advice, stating that the dresses were clearly different.

Eventually, the couple ended their argument. But the situation was far from over and took an aggravating turn when the OP returned home one day to find that her fiancé had switched her wedding dress with the one his mom wanted. Although her fiancé gave reasons for his actions when she called to confront him, she screamed at him over the call and left to stay at a friend’s place at the end of the day. 

After leaving to stay at her friend’s, he called her several times and sent her a text stating that she had overreacted and that it was his wedding as much as it was hers.

“He insisted I give this dress a chance. He went on and on about how his mom has a 'vision' and good intentions and just wants what (is) best for me as her future daughter inlaw,” she shared.

Further in the post, the OP stated that although her mom was livid and wanted to confront the mother and son, her dad objected to this so as not to cause a strain in their relationship. He suggested that the OP apply wisdom and accept the situation with her mother-in-law. 

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Readers on the platform took to the comment section to share their thoughts on the OP’s post. While many of the comments supported her for wanting to wear her chosen dress for her wedding, others advised her to end the engagement as her future mother-in-law's entitlement was only going to get worse if she proceeded with the marriage.

“Hand him the ring back…” one user wrote. “Say ‘I hope you get the wedding you and your mom have always hoped for.’ Walk away. NTA”

“Go return the other dress ASAP,” a second user wrote. “Don’t bother getting the old one back. You really need to think about whether you want this dynamic to exist the rest of your life. If she has a ‘vision’ for her son’s wedding, she has a 'vision' for her grandkids, your role in the family, and the home you will live in which likely has a room for her. NTA.”

“NTA. It's good that this is happening now. This is not a dynamic that is going to change with either your fiancé or his mother. RUN,” a third user commented.

“NTA. Wise up and run a mile. Next step is picking your honeymoon and coming along. Run, run, run, run and then run some more. Also, your Dad is being ridiculous too,” another commented.

“Nta,” another Redditor opined. “WTH did I just read?! I have no idea why you want to marry this man. He clearly has one woman he hold above everyone. And guess what that's not you. I am shocked at the audacity of his mother. And even more so of his behavior. Please do some soul searching. And looking at his past behavior if he has done somethings similar. Just imagine if you have kids. Will she think it's her experience?”

What do you think of the OP’s future mother-in-law wanting her to wear a particular dress for her wedding? Do you think the OP’s fiancé should have handled it better? Do you think she should call it quits? What would you do if you were in a similar situation? Let us know, and be sure to pass this article on to friends, family members and other people you think would have an answer!