Bride And Groom Anger Their Families For Only Offering Water At Their Dry, Sober Wedding
Jun 26, 2023 by apost team
Wedding receptions are one of the most important parts of a couple’s wedding. Usually, this is the most meticulously planned part of the entire event.
It's common for the bride and groom to want everything to go as flawlessly as possible and make their wedding everything they could have hoped for. More couples are choosing to have child-free weddings in an effort to keep everything running smoothly and to allow the adults to have a more sophisticated and mature atmosphere. However, one bride chose to let children attend her wedding since both sides have many children in the family, but the downside was, she and her fiancé decided to make it dry.
Taking her concern to Reddit, the soon-to-be bride wondered if she was in the wrong for making her wedding dry and only serving water for the entire reception.
“Honestly, this doesn't have anything to do with there being kids there but due to the fact that my fiancé and I don't drink. Nothing against people who do, it's just not for us and we don't want to. On top of that, we only really drink water. We rarely, if ever, drink soda so most of the time it's only water with the occasional juice and milk. We don't even drink coffee,” she explained in the post.
The bride also elaborated that they were getting food catered so guests had a variety of food to choose from, but that having alcohol or soda would just add an additional expense, as filtered water is a “much cheaper cost.”
Because of this rather unconventional preference, the bride angered some of their family members who suggested having an “open bar,” so the couple wouldn't have to pay for drinks, but people could have other options.
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For the bride, having an “open bar” was still out of the question as they would still have to shell out more money for it, including a bartender.
“Well, when family and friends found out being (sic) got angry. Some didn't really care but some are really upset about it. Saying that I can just have an open bar so I don't have to pay for drinks (we could, but still have to pay for the bartender and we just really don't want to bother with alcohol there),” she told the thread.
This sent the bride wondering whether they were being unfair to the guests or if was it valid for them to make the wedding “dry” by only serving water. They then received more comments and suggestions from their upset guests.
“Or we should at least have soda because how can we expect everyone to drink ONLY water? The kids will be upset. The wedding will be boring. That this is not how weddings work. Etc.,” the bride recalled.
Until the very end of her post, the bride seemed to be very unsure whether that was a problem at all or not. She added: “It's only water. I mean, don't most people drink water every day anyway? Should we pay the extra to have soda to make the family happy?”
According to Brides, having a “dry wedding” is normal. As defined, it is “a wedding without alcohol. The couple may choose not to serve alcohol for various reasons, from religious to financial.” However, the wedding blog site noted that a “dry wedding” should “definitely have a bar” that served soft drinks – sodas, juices, iced teas and water with garnishes should be enough to quench the thirst of the guests. A signature mocktail is also a great alternative to the actual spiked one.
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In the thread, Redditors were quite in unison on their reaction to the couple’s “inconsiderate” wedding decision.
“YTA (You're The A**hole) - I don't have anything against dry weddings but surely you can offer something other than just water. Iced Tea? Lemonade? Something with flavor? When my cousin had a dry wedding she served sodas. Your guests are not likely to think it's very celebratory if you just serve water,” a Redditor pointed out.
“As someone who only drinks water and the occasional tea, YTA. Not about making the wedding dry. That's perfectly fine. But damn, give people some options to drink. Some carbonated water if anything,” another suggested.
“YTA, not due to the no alcohol rule. I like drinking, but I can very much have a nice evening without it and whoever doesnt, should check if they have an alcohol problem. I think YTA because only water, no Soda, no juice, no coffee is totally bland and boring,” someone explained.
Most of the comments weren’t actually about the couple's decision not to serve alcohol but rather criticisms about their hosting capabilities.
“Listen, it’s your wedding and you can do what you want. But also, you’re HOSTING an event. Not having alcohol is one thing, but not even having coffee, soda, or tea? It feels cheap and inconsiderate, so for that, YTA,” a user sharply wrote.
“YTA. You're really cheaping out here and no one will think it's ANYTHING else. Why do you need a huge selection of food but can't give ppl a decent beverage?” another commented.
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Have you been to a dry wedding? Do you think the couple is in the wrong for only serving water? Do you agree with the other comments? Let us know, and pass this on to your family, friends and other loved ones to know what they think!