9 Toxic Behaviors Self-Respecting People Never Allow From Themselves Or Others

Aug 02, 2018 by apost team

When it comes to being the best self you can be, there’s a lot of transformation to daily life that often must take place. It takes being honest, transparent, and brave to drop the things expected by society but that no longer feed your soul.

To achieve your highest self, you must be willing to honor, respect, and love yourself enough to no longer tolerate the toxic behaviors society often accepts as the norm or just part of the daily grind. Here are nine behaviors that take your further away from your highest self and that should never be tolerated.

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important you’ll ever have in life. Others may come and go from your life like grains of sand on a shoreline, but the one and only constant will be yourself. If you want to live in a vibrant and positive world, then your thoughts must be congruent with that ideal.

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Having a negative view of yourself creates a dreary world in greyscale that shadows out happiness and opportunity. When you find yourself indulging in these thoughts, ask yourself: who profits from this? By having a positive relationship with yourself, your world is illuminated by the colors of endless opportunities and true happiness. Just as your physical body needs nutrients to survive and thrive, your inner self must be nourished with positive self-imagery, thoughts, actions, relationships, and goals to survive and thrive.

Selflessness has a boundary, and that boundary is your happiness. People pleasers sacrifice their own sense of self in an attempt to make everyone else happy. They never realize that the only person you can make happy is yourself. At the end of the day, you have to follow your intuition and make decisions based on your own gut, not someone else’s opinion. Always go with what feels right and give your own opinion highest value and priority.

Society has carved out holes that it expects everyone to fit through. The herd mentality is to fit through at any cost, even if that means cutting invaluable pieces of themselves off to reshape. You’ll never grow and reach your highest self following this path. Use your instinct to carve your own path. As you begin to feel comfortable in your own skin and trust your own truths above the expectations of others, you’ll see that the world isn’t limited to what’s on the other side of holes you don’t fit through.

The shade is comfortable and protective, but it also limits your view and doesn’t induce growth. Your soul and well-being become stagnant sitting in idle. Sure, the world can be a frightening place, but those that remain cocooned in a comfy safety net never see and experience the beauty and wonder it also holds. New things bring new knowledge and experiences to evolve from, and this is how a true sense of self is ultimately reached.

Technology has enabled us to communicate, learn, and entertain ourselves with the click of a device. It’s easy to get caught up in the ease of the online world and forget the value of actually going out and living, accomplishing, and contributing in the real world. Imagine only seeing a picture and learning every facet about a rose without ever feeling the delicate petals or smelling the rich sweetness.

This is the kind of limitation of living that becoming complacent with ease brings, and its a motivational killer. Set real world goals and online limitations so that you’re not limiting the endless possibilities living a well-rounded life offers you.

Whether it’s a partner, family member, or friend, anyone that tries to be a dictator or manipulator over your life is a soul leech. They’re slowly sucking the life out of you one move at a time. You must know that you deserve relationships that challenge you, not hold you back; lift you up, not drag you down; enhance your life, not taint it; and fertilizes personal growth; not chop it down. If you love yourself, then you will refuse to let anyone but you control you.

Everyone, of course, has bills they must pay. However it’s often more a case of keeping a particular job to afford the lifestyle they’re expected to maintain, not in affording the things they need and want. Don’t keep a job that drains the life and soul out of you just to maintain appearances. Ponder what type of job would fulfill and enrich your soul; what is your calling in life? You can’t love and respect yourself if you’re allowing the essence of who you are to be leeched by a job that doesn’t support your physical and emotion well-being.

Your mental, emotional, and physical health all dictate what you can accomplish in life. Even one prong of your health being out of balance means that you’re being held back and not achieving the highest self possible. Only you can take control of your health and ensure all elements are running at peak performance. If you’re not feeling well, examine where you can make changes - diet, exercise, life coach, meditation, medical advice, etc.

If you don’t value and challenge yourself, then it’s inevitable that you’ll settle for less than you deserve and take the easiest most comfortable path. Respect and value yourself enough to choose what fills up your happiness tank. Don’t settle for half-full. Don’t settle for regular. Don’t place limitations on what makes you happy. Whether it’s a person, place, or thing, only accept that which enhances and enriches your life.

There you have nine toxic things any self-respecting person on the journey to their highest self would never allow. Don’t forget that life is about thriving in being the best you possible every day, not just surviving to the next day!

Are you allowing any of these toxic behaviors to hold you back from your highest self? Tell us your thoughts, questions, and stories, and show this article to your friends, so they can be their best selves, too!