10 Things That Will Happen When You Finally Meet A Great Man After Being With Toxic Ones

Sep 04, 2018 by apost team

If you’ve been through relationships with toxic men, you probably had no idea how much abuse you were undergoing when you were in the relationship. You were aware that your relationship wasn’t ideal, and that most of it was bad, but you had no idea the lasting effects it would leave on your soul. When you date someone who is toxic, you aren’t aware that you’re the victim. That’s why it’s so difficult for victims of this type of abuse to leave their abuser. They don’t see the full scale of what is going on.

But then it happens. A friend or one of your peers awakens something inside you to gather the courage and strength needed in order to leave. Only then does the pain hit you, and you reflect upon how bad things were between the two of you. Even though it wasn’t ideal, you’ll miss it because it was something comfortable. You’ll be scared to take on the world by yourself. There will be times where the temptation to go back to this familiar situation is too much to handle. Before you know it, you’re in a relationship with a new man. Although the concept of a relationship feels familiar, it’s an entirely different scenario. This man is a great partner who knows how to behave and treats you with respect. Being treated well scares you because it’s not what you’re used to.

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You assume that your new man will treat you exactly how your old one did. You want to prepare yourself for the worst, defending yourself against bad treatment, even though your new boyfriend always shatters these negative expectations.

You think about how different this relationship is from your last one. You’re terrified of what could come out of this, so you overthink each little detail as much as you can. You read too far into everything that he does.

You’ll start to think that maybe this relationship is too good to be true. No man can be this kind and loving. You’ve never been treated so well and so fairly, which is why you believe this relationship won’t last.

You’ll misunderstand things and feel that he’s being shady. You don’t want to fall for games anymore. You might push him away due to your own insecurities. Even though you want him to stay far away, he pushes through your walls.

You prepare yourself to have many disagreements with your partner. You assume that he’s going to pick you apart and make you feel bad about everything you do. You wait for him to expose himself, but he never does.

You keep apologizing, even when you haven’t done anything wrong. Your previous relationship made you believe that everything you do is wrong, and you feel incapable of handling any situation correctly.

Even though you feel this way, he still treats you like a queen. You still receive as much love and attention as you desire. Even though you feel like you are undeserving, he never treats you less than perfect. You feel like you aren’t doing enough for him.

Because you feel like you’re not good enough, you’ll try to overcompensate. You try to match his level of love and affection with an overabundance of your own. You try to match and exceed his levels of intimacy.

And then, it finally hits you. You finally learn to trust somebody new after being in toxic situations before. You believe what he says and have faith in him as a person. You finally understand that this is the guy for you and there’s no longer a reason for you to be afraid of loving someone.

When you finally figure out that things are going to work out in your relationship with this new man, you realize what true love is really all about. You’ve grown into somebody who has a newfound appreciation for a healthy relationship.

Although it can be difficult to get yourself out of a toxic situation, the future can only be bright from here. Once you realize what you deserve and what you need in a relationship, the best is yet to come.

What do you think about this list? Can you relate to any of the points? Let us know in the comments, and show this article to a good man you know.