10 Signs You Are In Love Or Just Emotionally Dependent
Aug 06, 2018 by apost team
Almost everyone is searching for one thing, which is love. Love rules the world and makes us happy. We feel as though everything will be just perfect, as long as we have the right person by our side at all times. Many of us want to be in love so badly that we end up swept up in the first initial stages of romance. We become blinded by desire, affection, and lust. We feel that there isn’t any better feeling in the world than how we feel when someone loves us as much as we love them.
But, there are times that we only idealize people, instead of allowing them to be themselves. We are all searching for validation but sometimes, this gets in the way of a genuine, loving bond. Read on to learn the 10 signs that you may not have as healthy of a relationship as you think you do.
1. You are very jealous when you don’t get all of your partner’s attention.
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You want them all to yourself and don’t like when they spend time with others.
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2. You have both stopped doing the things you used to love to do before you met one another.
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You may have both drifted away from other relationships that were once important to you.
3. You worry all the time that your loved one is going to decide to just get up and leave you for another person.
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You have become extremely possessive of them when other people are around.
4. You will willingly bail on other plans in order to spend more time with your significant other.
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This often makes friends and family upset, but you put your partner’s feelings ahead of theirs.
5. You don’t value your own validation as much as you do your partners.
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Have you ever bought an outfit, only to have your partner say they didn't like it? What did you do? If you returned it, it could be a sign of emotional dependence.
6. You don’t care about the true feelings of your partner and who they are in the inside.
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You would rather they keep up appearances in front of your family and friends.
7. You believe that you can change your partner.
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You want them to be something they are not because it is what you want for them.
8. You like to exercise a bit of control over your significant other.
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If they do not do what you want them to, you become upset and distant from them.
9. You absolutely feel as if you would never recover or move on if your significant other died or left you.
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You genuinely cannot imagine a life without them in it because you are so dependent on them.
10. You derive a lot of your self-worth from how much your partner loves and approves of you.
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If you can't like something unless your partner likes it, too, then you may be emotionally dependent. Just because you love someone does not mean that your opinions and feelings have to align perfectly with theirs all the time.
Do you feel as if you act this way in your relationship? Or have you had a partner who acted this way? Please tell us about it in the comments and pass this along to those who may need to hear it!