Woman Rudely Rejects Man’s Suggestion To Go On Ice Cream Date As She Thinks It Shows ‘Bare Minimum’ Effort

Jul 19, 2023

First dates are about getting to know someone and discovering what you have in common. First dates are fantastic but can be as tricky as they come; in many cases, they have the potential to determine what happens between two people who are getting to know each other. While first dates are necessary for exploring connections between potential partners, the issue of where to go for a first date can always be challenging to settle. It is even harder to scale if one-half of the date wants to create a memorable first impression or impress the other person. 

Moreover, depending on the person you are going out with, your efforts might be too little or too extravagant. For some, a walk in the park or coffee date may be ideal, while for others, it may be low effort and not impressive. In the same vein, a dinner date may hit the right spot for some, while it might be overly awkward for others, especially if they are meeting each other for the first time. 

According to dating experts, the best first dates are centered around activities. Activities like bowling, axe throwing, sip and paint, and wine tastings provide an avenue to raise multiple topics for discussion while also creating natural breaks from the conversation. Again, the recommendations by dating experts are still subject to what the person going on a date considers expressive. 

For many, going out for ice cream might be an ideal first date, but it was too low of an effort for a woman who was scheduled to go on a date with a Redditor. In a  Reddit post on July 11, 2023, a user shared how he was rejected for proposing an ice cream date with a lady he met on a dating platform.

A Redditor, Vance, was excited to go on a date with a potential partner, but he got an unexpected response when he texted her ahead of their scheduled meeting. The Redditor made a post on July 11, 2023, that included a screenshot of the conversation he had with his proposed date.

The conversation between the two started warmly, with an exchange of pleasantries accompanied by smiley emojis. But it took a wrong turn when Vance suggested that they have ice cream for their scheduled date.

“Hope you’ve had a good day, I’m excited for tomorrow. I can pick you up but if you’re not comfortable with that we can just meet there,” texted Vance. “Idk why but l’m feeling like getting some ice cream in this hot weather 🥵lol.”

The woman, unimpressed by Vance’s suggestion to engage their sweet tooths, promptly shut down the idea. She further added that it was best they didn’t meet since they were on different wavelengths, and ended the message by wishing him the best.

“Sorry if this may come off as rude but I don’t do ice cream dates,” she responded. “I’m a 26 yo woman and a date like that seems like the absolute bare minimum for me. Meeting up would be a waste of both of our times since we probably don’t have the same vibe. Best wishes,” she ended.

Vance took her response without a grudge. “Cool 😎,” he responded. But unlike his earlier messages, the last one didn’t deliver, implying that the woman had blocked him.

“I guess ice cream dates are considered a terrible idea nowadays,” Vance captioned the post.

Vance’s post provoked many reactions from other Redditors, who flocked to the comment section to share their opinions. 

“What didn’t work out for OP really worked out for OP,” one user wrote. ”You offered to save her gas money and to fill her belly with delicious ice cream. Any woman who can’t appreciate the little things certainly doesn’t deserve the big things,” they added. 

“Bullet dodged. Money saved. Nothing lost here!,” another commented.

“WOW. I’d be so happy with a date idea that wasn’t the same old thing. She’s missing out. You’ll find someone to appreciate your ice cream date,” wrote another.

Despite the overwhelming comments in support of Vance, some commenters had support for the unnamed lady.

“Every one sh***ing on her but she was honest and upfront about it seems like a win win tbh,” a user wrote.

“Everyone on Tinder tries to speak for the entire dating population and it’s always exhausting. This person isn't into ice cream dates, they probably wanted something more mature or adult feeling. That's fine but there are others that'll love your idea. Good luck,” a third person commented.

“So because she doesn't agree with going out to get ice cream that makes her a bad person? Lol I guess I'm a bad person/ gold digger to cause there's no way I would go out to meet someone for ice cream either. I too find that as a low effort date as well but that's just me. And hey at least she told you instead of ghosting. Something else I'm sure you would have complain about 😂,” another wrote.

What would be your reaction if you were in Vance’s position? Would you have ice cream on the first date? What is your opinion on the conversation between Vance and the unnamed woman? What is a perfect first date idea? Let us know and — and be sure to pass this article on to friends, family members and other people you think would have an answer!