Woman Causes Family Feud After Charging Money Every Time They Ask Her Questions About Pregnancy

May 11, 2022

Having a baby is a very exciting time for new parents, but it can also be very overwhelming and scary. There is a lot to learn in a short period of time, from which doctor is the best, to what proper diet and exercise plan will be best for the mother and the baby’s health, and so much more. Taking all of this into consideration, it’s not hard to see why many parents feel anxious about starting a family, especially if they are having problems regarding the matter.

One wife went to Reddit in April 2022 to talk about this and ask users for advice regarding an issue she was having with her family. She and her husband have been married for six years and hope to have children someday, but it hasn’t happened yet. Recently their family has been pressuring them about when they’re going to have children, as they are both in their mid-30s.

According to Mayo Clinic, there are some potential risks and complications that come with getting pregnant after 35, including taking longer to get pregnant and potential issues with the baby once he or she is born.

While it’s understandable that the wife’s family is curious about her situation, she has gotten frustrated with them prying in her business to the point where she now makes them pay every time they ask about when she’s going to have kids. She makes them point money in her “pregnancy jar,” which she carries around everywhere. However, this has caused some issues within the family, and the wife was criticized for being the cause of these tense moments.

In her Reddit post, the original poster (OP) said that she and her husband of six years want to have kids, but they just haven’t gotten there yet. “Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon but it’s obviously something we can’t control,” she said.

Wanting people to stay out of her business, OP hatched a plan. “So what I did was come up with idea (stupid I know) about that is have an empty jar and call it ‘pregnancy jar,’” she explained. “I carry it with me in my bag whenever I’m with my friends and family and every time someone asks about when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my jar out and ask them to drop a dollar in there for asking.”

Surprisingly, the pregnancy jar was working well as many people stopped asking after a few months. However, when OP and her husband were having dinner at her parents’ house alongside her brother and his family, the question of kids was brought up again.

After OP’s brother asked when she and her husband were going to have a kid, OP brought over her pregnancy jar and told her brother to drop $1 in. She explained, “He said no, he didn’t have to pay me but I told him he didn’t have to ask either so here we are!”

Her brother paid and OP resumed having dinner as if nothing had happened. There was an awkward tension in the air that lasted for the remainder of dinner.

OP continued, “Mom pulled me into the kitchen later to tell me that I embarrassed my brother infront of his wife and family and said I should quit acting childish by running around with a jar demanding others to put money in it, I told her they should quit asking then.” 

Her mom expressed that she was concerned since both OP and her husband are in their mid-30s, and she wants them to have a healthy baby soon. They continued arguing, and OP’s sister even called her later to tell her just how childish she was being.

However, OP has started to wonder if she is in the wrong, and asked Reddit users for their thoughts. Not only were Redditors on OPs side, but they also thought her idea was “brilliant” and thought of ways they could add their own jar to match their personal frustrations. One user explained, “It brings the absurdity of the question (and by extension the questioner) to an even more absurd plane.”

Another user commented, “People need to quit asking people when/if they are having a kid or having another kid. If they want a kid, they are probably struggling with fertility, working through that process, and it’s difficult enough without people asking. If they don’t, that’s fine too.”

A third user echoed this idea, and said, “You asked them to stop. As someone with fertility issues, this is a VERY sensitive topic. Anytime someone asked me about having kids I’d always burst into tears. It’s not OK to keep hounding people about babies.”

What do you think about this woman’s pregnancy jar? Will you be using her idea as inspiration for your own qualms? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your family and friends.