The Strongest Women Came From Terrible Fathers

Jun 21, 2018

Maybe your father walked out when you were young, or maybe he stuck around but treated you like dirt. It doesn't matter. You're an amazing woman who has made the best of a shitty situation.

Growing up with a toxic father teaches you to be independent. You work hard and pay your own bills. If your car breaks down, you fix it. If you want a new pair of shoes, you buy them. You've never had a father to rely on, so if a problem arises, you handle it. You never play the damsel in distress, because you know the only person who can save you is yourself.

Growing up with a toxic father makes all of your relationships more meaningful. You're used to people leaving when things get rough, so you appreciate those who choose to stay. Holidays are spent with friends who value your company. You're not worried about being alone, so if you're in a relationship, it's because you want to be.

Growing up with a toxic father gives you the strength to walk away from a bad situation. You'll burn bridges while you're still standing on them, just to show everyone how serious you are. You've seen firsthand how dangerous staying in an unhealthy relationship is, so it's easy for you to move on. If someone wants to be with you, they had better do it on your terms.

Growing up with a toxic father inspires you to be a better person. You saw the devastation his actions caused, and you never want to make the same mistakes he did. You're aware of how your actions affect others, and you try to be as positive as your father was negative. You create the peace and stability you longed for while you were growing up.

Did you have a shitty father? Can you relate to this article? Tell us about your experience, and be sure to invite other strong women to the conversation.