People Who Were Unloved As Children Exhibit These 7 Behaviors As Adults

Aug 24, 2018

Children develop behaviors and personality traits at a very young age. Kids who were unloved often display some peculiar symptoms. Here are seven highly likely symptoms.

The importance of receiving proper nurturing when we're children is so high that it's almost difficult to explain. The first four years of a kid's life are the most crucial regarding personality development and behavioral habits. Love and affection are essential elements, and their lack affects kids tremendously. People who were unloved as children show obvious signs of such in their behaviors. These are seven common signs.

Lack of trust is one of the top symptoms of a person who did not receive adequate nurturing. Such a person may have experienced broken promises, dishonesty, lack of protection or abandonment. The brain sends automatic messages to this person to guard herself. It automatically thinks that if you can't trust the people who brought you into the world, who can you trust? The individual then exhibits behaviors of someone who doesn't trust anyone.

A general fear of failure is often prevalent in an under-nurtured person. Parents are supposed to encourage children when they try to accomplish things and also let them know that failure is not the complete end of the world. They're supposed to teach their children to try again if they don't succeed the first time. Sometimes, caregivers pass the wrong messages to their children, and they develop an ever-present fear of failure in all situations because of it.

Anxiety and depression may occur because of a lack of appropriate coping skills. They may also plague the person because of unfavorable childhood memories. Neglected individuals are highly likely to experience one or both of these conditions at some point in their lives.

Unloved children often display a high level of sensitivity to criticism and an exaggerated amount of guilt and/or shame. This may come from the false perception that they are to blame for all of the problems that ever happened in their childhood. Since no one ever fed them the positive notion that it wasn't their fault, they often go on to grow up as adults who take the blame on themselves even for things that have nothing to do with them.

You're likely to see attachment issues and insecurities in someone who was not loved as a child. The attachment issues can either manifest as commitment fears or extreme neediness. The insecurity is there because no one ever made them feel secure.

Harmful or toxic relationships are often common in unloved or under-loved children. The way that their caretakers interact with them sets the stage for their adult lives until they learn differently and until they learn what's healthy. A string of abusive or toxic relationships is a telltale sign that someone did not receive the nurturing that he or she deserved.

Such persons will often have an overall poor sense of emotional intelligence. They may have difficulty articulating how they feel. They may express these emotions way too strongly. Alternatively, they're forced resilience may cause them not to express many emotions at all. The entire process of experiencing, digesting and expressing their emotions have been eradicated.

If you see some of your behaviors on the list, you may be a victim of not receiving enough love from your caretakers. We feel for you, and we hope that you receive the love that you deserve. Tell your closest friends and family about this list so that they can see whether they display these behaviors, too.