Mother & Son-In-Law Reveal 'Disaster' Secret To Daughter After 16 Years

Oct 04, 2023

Secrets are meant to be kept for a reason. Sometimes, it could either make or break someone’s relationship, perception towards someone, or even another’s life. In life, people make mistakes that would definitely bring huge consequences to the people around them, whether they did it unintentionally or intentionally, that is beyond everyone’s grasp. 

A woman of age took to the Confessions Thread on Reddit and disclosed a secret that would actually pass as something only people would see on television series or in overly dramatic films. 

Reddit user Kasamaherm55 posted her confession on Sept. 21, 2018, and it left people on the internet stunned by how shocking the entire confession was. The post wasn’t just a simple confession like someone stole some cookies or someone farted on someone’s funeral inappropriately – it was a mistake or revelation that could cause someone’s life to fall apart level of confession. 

“I was 38 and my daughter was 18, and she was dating Harry, who was 24. I was an alcoholic and dabbled in other drugs, mostly c*c**ne. I was not a good person, let alone mother. Not like I was abusive to my daughter or anything but I was generally inattentive and cared more about my alcohol and drugs than her, especially in her teen years. I am 14 years sober now,” the original poster (OP) remembered, recalling the events that took place in 1997. 

Back then, OP disproved her daughter dating Harry, but she never told her why. Turns out, the man would flirt with her constantly, and just like OP, he was an alcoholic and a drug user. This conflict led to her daughter breaking up with Harry. 

But the end for her daughter was only the start of something messier for her. 

Soon after her daughter moved away from her and OP was left alone in the house, Harry kept calling her and showing up, but she initially turned him down. However, when she was looking for substances, Harry came by and brought some, and she couldn’t resist. The two partook in substance abuse and physical relations.

“He was a very good looking guy. He looked A LOT like that ridiculous 80s justin beiber picture that was on the front page today, that is actually what made me think about him,” OP said at the time. 

One thing led to another, and they continued this unhealthy relationship for four months. Eventually, OP got pregnant with Harry. She decided to have the baby removed without Harry knowing and held on to that secret for dear life. 

OP stopped seeing Harry then, and she tried to clean up herself. Two years later, she was contacted by her daughter and revealed that she got back with a now-sober Harry. 

“I was mortified honestly. He was gonna tell her that we slept together, and she is going to hate me for life. They came over one day and said hi, and when my daughter was gone, Harry told me that there is no reason to tell her about what happened. I agreed,” OP clarified. 

As per OP’s recollection, it has been 16 years of marriage and a child for her daughter and Harry. Eventually, OP got sober but still hid the secret for her daughter’s sake. 

OP noted that whenever they meet as a family, she can see that there is some tension between them – a "why did we have to do that? What the f**k is wrong with us?" kind of tension. 

Elsewhere on the thread, OP revealed that she thinks about her grandson often and how it could be a completely different thing and a “disaster” if she decided to keep the baby back then.

Redditors were stunned by OP’s confession, noting that these types of confessions were the reason why they stayed on the SubReddit. 

“Sixteen years and a gigantic secret. Secrets drive wedges between people and relationships should be built on trust. I’m kind of torn, I think you two are doing wrong by your daughter. :/” a user pointed out.

“I feel bad for your daughter, honestly. I know what she isn't aware of can't hurt her, but the very possibility that this truth can get her to be devastated to a point of severe depression is what's bothering me, especially now that it's been so many years and they have a child together. It's easy for me to say but if I were you, I'd have probably confessed to her about my time with her boyfriend right when she'd tell me about her patch-up. As a parent, you could have tried to ditch your fear of judgement from her or the fear of acquiring her hatred, and instead given her the opportunity to make a choice and choose a relationship where she wouldn't be living oblivious to dirty secrets all her life,” someone eloquently shared.

While there are many Redditors who criticized the mother for her actions, some gave her more constructive advice: “When you see them - try to live in the moment and not-concentrate on the past....... it’s behind you! When living the life of partying we all do (did)?things we regret -really regretful things but we have to accept that was all part of the addiction or lifestyle. Hold our heads up and move on!”

What can you say about OP’s confession? What would you have done differently if you were in her position? Let us know, and pass this on to your family, friends, and other loved ones!