Mom Rages At Best Friend For Breastfeeding Her Baby At A Wedding Without Her Consent

Aug 31, 2023

Motherhood is a special phase for every mother, especially when their children are still infants. The bond with kids makes it even more special. One of the ways mothers are able to bond with their babies is through breastfeeding. Through skin-to-skin contact during breastfeeding, a physical and emotional bond is created. Ideally, it is acceptable that only parents can create such a bond with their kids. However, in the case of a certain Reddit mom, she had unknowingly been sharing her breastfeeding role with her best friend. 

The Reddit user with the handle CandidNinja900 expressed her anger on the internet as she relayed how her closest pal played dry nurse to her baby without her consent. The mom explained her plight in a June 2023 post on the Off My Chest subreddit.

In friendships, there should be high trust, especially when the person is your best friend. This also includes the fact that friends should be able to trust each other to respect boundaries. A best friend is someone you trust to be a part of your family and share everything without suspicion. However, bad situations could occur, but to what extent could one tolerate a friend when boundaries are overstepped? 

The disgruntled mom was left shocked and devastated at the realization of what had been happening behind her back. She was further left speechless with more revealing details of the situation. The Redditor, who described herself as a 30-year-old, stated that she had a ten-month-old baby. She noted that her 31-year-old friend was quite fond of her baby daughter and took time to take care of her from time to time.  

Things took an unexpected turn the day she discovered her pal had been trespassing. The original poster (OP) recounted:

“So we were at a mutual friend wedding yesterday, and I was holding my daughter for quite some time, since she hates strollers. My best friend came to me and offered to take her for a while, so that I could take a break and go chat with some friends. I agreed and wholeheartedly thanked her."

She continued, "After twenty minutes or so, I come back to where we were, and she wasn't there. So I start looking for her in the garden, and she was literally nowhere to be found. Finally after another ten minutes I manage to find her, and I see her talking to some people while holding my baby with her boob shoved down my daughter's throat.”

OP was shell-shocked. She called her friend aside to avoid causing a scene. However, the situation only worsened. 

“After reaching a quiet place, I yelled wtf was wrong with her and why was she nursing my daughter? She looked at me in disbelief, and she replied that she understood that it was the best way to calm my daughter, and that there's nothing wrong about it, adding that she could very well be her daughter," she said.

OP was taken aback by her friend's utterance but didn’t continue the conversation as they had to return to the party. The pair planned to talk things out later. 

She shared, “I don't even f--kin know what to tell her without raging at her. It's been nearly a day and this thought never left my mind not even for a second. How could she say that 'there's was nothing wrong with it'??? I feel like she violated my daughter, and she gave literally zero f- about it.”

In an edit, she noted that they set up a meeting the next day to hash things out. She revealed, “So we met and we talked. I let her talk first. She explained that my daughter was restless while she was talking to a couple of women, and they said that maybe she was hungry and it was fine for them to keep talking while she was breastfeeding, so she just...did." The mom added:

OP’s friend told her that she previously dry nursed the toddler and used breast pumps. This way, she was able to lactate. She said that “the supply was still low,” but in a while, the mom “could leave breastfeeding to her and stop doing it and worrying about it." The appalled Redditor shared:

“I was LIVID, but she didn't even realize, she was completely clueless like absorbed in her own world. Like not even realizing that what she did was wrong...”

The woman was so enraged that she ended the friendship and threatened to call the police if her friend tried contacting her. Other Redditors weighed in on the situation.

Someone shared, “I feel like she’s trying to take your role as a mom. Be careful with her.” Another chimed, “Your friend was wrong on soooo many levels. Her trauma of not having children and miscarriage does not entitle her to try and breastfeed someone else’s child…”

One person advised, “I am more concerned with the statement that your daughter could be hers... she is sounding a lot like someone who could kidnap your baby. Might be a good idea to get some advice from law enforcement on this one.” Another suggested, “The friend may be suffering from post partum psychosis and honestly need some help.”

What are your thoughts on the best friend’s act? Do you think the mom should inform law enforcement? Let us know, and be sure to pass this on to others.