Man Demands Paternity Test From Wife To Ensure Son Who Is His 'Mirror Image' Besides Skin Tone Is Actually His

Sep 25, 2023

Being a parent is perhaps one of the most crucial and difficult things a person can do, as they are responsible for shaping their child’s values, principles, parts of their personality and even their aspirations as they go through life. While it is also true that family is not dictated by blood, many people tend to face difficulty when they are faced with uncertainty, for example, if their child isn’t actually theirs. 

Reddit user imshattered_ took to the True Off My Chest forum on the website and vented out her problems in January 2023, sharing her difficult dilemma at the time. 

The Original Poster (OP), a newly-minted mother, revealed that her boyfriend of 3 years, whom she says she shared the child with surprisingly asked for a paternity test for their kid, who she also claims is the “mirror image” of him, "apart from the skin tone."

“I was stunned when he asked and his reasons were that he had to be sure he was the father, he had to have that certainty. All I remember as he was speaking is just immediately feeling pain,” she explained in the post. “The man I love doesn't trust me. He would actually believe that I would f*** someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass off another man's baby as his. I have never ever given him reason to think I would cheat on him. I have tried to be transparent and communicated and it wasn't enough.” 

OP’s boyfriend wanted to be “100% sure” as he needed OP to "realize how serious he was.” After careful consideration, OP confessed that she would allow her boyfriend to have a paternity test as she had nothing to hide and that she “never cheated and would have never cheated on him” – there’s a catch, however. 

According to OP’s post on Reddit, once the paternity test was done and it was proven that her boyfriend was indeed the father of the child — she would be “leaving the same day” and try her “best to be a cooperative co-parent” with him.

In a follow-up post, OP revealed that she asked her boyfriend about his reasons for asking. Apparently, OP’s boyfriend saw an article about a man who found out 20 years after that his 3 children weren’t actually his. Because of this, OP fell into a rabbit hole of podcasters and YouTube videos encouraging men to secure a paternity test. 

“He said his reasoning was that some women have done this before and he wanted to be sure. He said, 'you know it's yours because the baby comes out of you but how do I know?' 'The test gives me that assurance,'" OP recalled in the post. 

OP said she was “hurt” and explained what she really felt. 

“It was him saying that he believed 'I would cheat on him, get pregnant, have him emotionally, financially, and physically support me during the pregnancy, and birth and basically lie to him while he raised another man's child'. I told him that I understand that women had done this before but the fact that HE thought I would do this to him is what bothered me,” she went on to add. 

When they finally did the paternity test, and it was confirmed that her boyfriend was indeed the father, OP still couldn’t brush the thing off. 

“I'm going to try to fix this and try therapy( individual and couples) but I just have this feeling that this is basically a sinking ship. I hope I'm wrong. I want very much to be wrong,” she concluded. 

Sadly, OP revealed in another post that “things have gone downhill” since her last post and that they were settling things in court.

People on Reddit showered OP with affirmations, consoling her on what happened. 

“I was just thinking about your situation and saw this post. I'm glad you left, but I'm sorry you had to go through this at all. You didn't deserve your husband's lack of trust. I hope you're doing okay,” a user said.

“I'm so glad, im sure after an amount of time and the dust settles you will be much happier without the man who was practically accusing you of cheating and manipulating him into raising a kid, and then gaslighting your feelings about it. Remember these things and you will be golden, best of luck!” another cheered. 

For some users, it was “the best decision” that OP has made. 

“This was the best decision you could have made. If you would be getting more children with him, would he do the same thing? Over and over again? This relationship was already over when he asked for a paternity test. Now he needs to deal with the consequentions of his own actions. I wish you the best :(“ someone commented.

“OP- I commend you. I dealt with a partner for 10 years who was insecure and distrusting(he hid it well) and he became very abusive due to his insecurities. If I knew what I do now, I wouldn’t have had a child with him. I would not have even married him. You are doing the best thing for yourself and your child. Follow your gut instincts- they are always going to guide you in the right direction. If anything feels off, that’s reason enough to leave,” another affirmed.  

What can you say about OP’s problem? Do you think she was right for leaving her husband after his requests? What would you have done if you were in her shoes? Let us know, and pass this on to your family, friends and other loved ones!