Man Criticized For Kicking Out His Teenage Daughter After Finding Out He Is Not Her Biological Father

Aug 18, 2023

A man asked Reddit in August 2022 if he was right to kick out his daughter after finding out the truth about her birth. User RepresentativePie815, started:

“I(39M) had a daughter with my wife (42F)when I turned 20. My now 19 year old daughter has grown up to be a bit of an attention seeker, and has often spread lies about others to try and stir drama with herself at the center, playing the victim. Now, I honestly don’t try anymore after I told her multiple times to stop, and just tell her that she’s digging her own grave.”

OP explained that days before his post, his daughter asked him for $200 for a mall trip with friends, but he refused because he already gave her money for the month. When the man continued to decline, she got angry and yelled that her mother shouldn’t have married a rich man who couldn’t give her money. 

“I immediately retorted telling her that I was her father and that I wasn’t some ATM she could just use anytime,” the man disclosed. “We started yelling until she blurted out that I was nothing more than an ATM to her because I wasn’t even her biological father. I was really appalled and asked her where she got that idea from?”

OP’s daughter realized her mistake and tried to cover up, but it was too late. After her dad threatened to kick her out, she told him the truth. OP said:

“She told me that my wife sat her down after she turned 18, and told her that since she was an adult, she needed to know the truth, that my wife cheated on my with 3 different people during the conceiving period of her birth." There was a "strong chance" OP wasn't the father.

OP received more shocking news. His wife had asked their daughter not to tell him because they needed his money. He confronted his wife, and she confirmed it. He then kicked her and their daughter out despite his wife insisting that he ought to continue supporting them. Meanwhile, he gave his daughter $200 as she had no job or savings, and he knew none of it was her fault.

He also planned to press legal charges against his uncooperative wife. Meanwhile, he ran a DNA test which confirmed the 19-year-old was not his. The man then faced another predicament. 

“However now my in laws are telling me to take my soon-to-be ex back since she was young and made mistakes,” he revealed. “My own family is telling me to take my (step?)daughter back since she was raised like my own, but she kept a secret like this from me and tried to use me like her mother, so I said no. They are all blowing me up right now trying to get me to change my mind, so AITA?”

OP added a few more details. He disclosed that he made the post weeks after the incident. He also revealed that his daughter came home to ask for money because she already spent the $200 he gave her.

“I was still furious with her but I couldn’t let her run around the city without food or shelter. I told her that if she cooperated and helped me, I would give her some money monthly. I won’t leave a young girl helpless in a city, even if the circumstances are bad. I won’t take her back or give her anywhere near as much money as I used to, but I will still help,” he said.

Most Redditors felt that the man was right. 

“NTA. This is going to take some getting through, and will, unfortunately, change all of you forever. Stay strong brother,” a Redditor encouraged him.

They added, “You seem to have a clear mind about where responsibility and accountability lie. It doesn’t sound like your daughter kept a secret out of love, and any other reason is just corrosive. For my opinion, complete the break leagally and financially, and then, when the air is clear, see if anyone wants a relationship after. You may be surprised where your daughter lands on this.”

However, another user thought that OP should still treat the girl as his daughter. They wrote:

“NTA, you acted out of impulse and this would be extremely hurtful. I would have a second think about whether the girl you thought was yours and was raised as your own should be cut out of your life though. That’s a big call to make in an emotive state."

Meanwhile, some users thought that the man was wrong to have kicked out his wife and daughter as he also contributed to raising his daughter. 

“NTA for the cheating wife, ESH for the daughter. Bio or not, you raised her to be the way she is. Not loving her anymore at 19 because of something she has no control over isn't a great look for you,” the Redditor claimed.

A second Redditor agreed. “ESH, they wrote. “Your wife sucks for using you and cheating on you. Your daughter aucks (sic) for being terrible and spoilt. And you suck for raising her for 18 years and allowing her to become this s***** entitled person. Because if we remove the part about biology, you still seem to have done a cr**** job of being a parent here.”

What do you think about the man’s story? Do you think he made the right decision? Let us know — and be sure to pass this on to friends and family.