Madonna Said To Be In Personal ‘Crisis’ After Breakup As She Continues Her Fight Against Ageism

Mar 08, 2023

Madonna is certainly no stranger to controversy. Over her four-decade-long career, the pop star has weathered a multitude of criticism, disdain, condemnation and disparagement from the media over everything from her fashion style and her dance moves to her behavior on talk shows. Despite the flak, the “Material Girl” always seemed to come out the other side swinging. However, after taking to the stage at an awards show in February 2023, her physical appearance has got the world talking – and it’s not just the media this time.

Pop icon Madonna has long defied the odds and broken boundaries throughout her career. She is not only a talented singer but an all-around performer, entertainer, actress and pop culture icon. Madonna has given us plenty of hits, defining the course of pop music and ultimately earning her the moniker the "Queen of Pop."

The legend was born Madonna Louise Ciccone on Aug. 16, 1958. Originally from Michigan, the aspiring star moved to New York City in the late 1970s to pursue a career in dance before finally finding success as a solo singer. The ‘80s were peppered with a plethora of No. 1 hits from the diva, including "Papa Don’t Preach," "Like a Prayer" and "Vogue." Her enduring popularity was bolstered by even more successful songs down the road. She saw a resurgence in the late '90s with hits such as “Don’t Cry For Me Argentina,” “Ray of Light,” “Frozen,” “Music” and the duet with pop princess Britney Spears, “Me Against The Music.”

Besides serving rocking tunes, the icon has also been serving great looks. Known for her eclectic taste in fashion and penchant for reinvention, Madonna has pushed the envelope throughout the years. Though not all her fashion and beauty choices garnered favor, she always gained praise for her courage to take risks.

On Feb. 5, 2023, Madonna appeared on stage at the 65th Annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles to introduce Sam Smith and Kim Petras before their performance of “Unholy,” which went on to win the Best Pop Duo/Group Performance award later that night. In her introduction, Madonna referenced her own divisive legacy.

“If they call you shocking, scandalous, problematic, provocative or dangerous, you are definitely onto something,” she said. She added: “'I am here to give thanks to all the rebels out here forging a new path and taking the heat for all of it. You guys need to know, all you trouble makers out there, you need to know that your fearlessness does not go unnoticed. You are seen. You are heard and most of all, you are appreciated.” 

As usual, Madonna skipped the typical ball gown and opted for an almost all-black affair. She wore a tailored blazer over a crisp white shirt and tie, and paired it with a long, black skirt with a high slit. She also wore fishnet gloves adorned with stacks of silver rings. Her hair was fashioned into four braids – two smaller ones hanging down the sides of her face and two bigger braids pinned up into circles on the side of her head. She kept her make-up relatively understated with thick lashes, matte lipstick and eyebrows dyed blonde.

However, it wasn’t her fashion and make-up choices that stole the spotlight that night. Instead, fans quickly took to social media to decry just how unrecognizable the “Holiday” singer’s face – with not a wrinkle in sight and puffed-up cheeks – looked. Many slammed the pop star for what they speculated was her overzealous attempt to look young through cosmetic procedures that resulted in the unwelcome transformation.

On Twitter, viewers spared no sympathy for Madonna. Some likened her new look to a puppet from a horror movie, while others called her an “impostor.”

“What is happening to Madonna,” one tweet read alongside a photo of Madonna next to a picture of the Jigsaw puppet from the “Saw” movies.

Another viewer tweeted, “Letting yourself age gracefully is far more beautiful than plastic surgery,” above a photo comparison of the 64-year-old Madonna next to her own also 64-year-old mother.

“What has Madonna done to herself?” one tweet read, followed by an emoji of a circus clown.

“I really wish Madonna never touched her face. There really was no reason. She was going to age beautifully. She's always been beautiful,” another person commented.

On Instagram, Madonna uploaded a clip of herself in her Grammys outfit holding a horseriding whip. However, her followers were not any kinder to her in the comments.

“She has changed in a bad way. She has fallen in on herself and I no longer recognize her as a force. She seems like she needs loved ones to intervene and help her… I used to adore Madonna, but she failed herself and her fans, she’s become a person who followed the trends set by losers. She should have aged with dignity, but chose to try and prove something she didn’t need to prove,” one follower wrote. 

Many, in a similar vein, censured her for following today’s extreme beauty standards, while others called out the environment itself for creating such pressure on women to conform to them.

“I don’t hate Madonna for doing this to herself. I hate that we live in a society where she thinks she has to do this to herself,” a more sympathetic comment read.

Madonna didn't hold back in responding to the wave of criticism. On Instagram, she shared a video of the night and posted a lengthy statement, in which she said it was an honor to introduce Petras and Smith. 

"I wanted to give the last award which was Album of the year, but I thought it was more important that I present the first trans-woman performing at the Grammys — a History making moment!! And on top of that she won a Grammy!!," she said in reference to Petras. She continued:

"Instead of focusing on what I said in my speech which was about giving thanks for the fearlessness of artists like Sam and Kim - Many people chose to only talk about Close-up photos of me Taken with a long lens camera By a press photographer that Would distort anyone’s face!!"

She chalked up the criticism to being "caught in the glare of ageism and misogyny that permeates the world we live in. A world that refuses to celebrate women past the age of 45 And feels the need to punish her If she continues to be strong willed, hard-working and adventurous." The pop icon continued:

"I have never apologized for any of the creative choices I have made nor the way that I look or dress and I’m not going to start. I have been degraded by the media since the beginning of my career but I understand that this is all a test and I am happy to do the trailblazing so that all the women behind me can have an easier time in the years to come. ... I look forward to many more years of subversive behavior - pushing boundaries-Standing up to the patriarchy - and Most of all enjoying my life."

She added, "In the words of Beyonce “You-won’t break my soul," before ending with, "bow down b****es!" 

Despite the recent furor, it's not the first time Madonna has used her platform to criticize the media. In a 2019 Dazed interview, she lamented that social media is "made to make you feel bad."

“You get caught up in comparing yourself to others ... People are really a slave to winning people’s approvals.”

On the topic of Hollywood's ageism problem, the star spoke candidly in a 2019 Vogue profile: 

“People have always been trying to silence me for one reason or another, whether it’s that I’m not pretty enough, I don’t sing well enough, I’m not talented enough, I’m not married enough, and now it’s that I’m not young enough. ... So they just keep trying to find a hook to hang their beef about me being alive on. Now I’m fighting ageism, now I’m being punished for turning 60.”

The icon said she has "no living role models," as all of the women who came before her that she admires — Frida Kahlo, Simone de Beauvoir and Angela Davis — didn't have children. "Being a single parent of six children, I continue to be creative and be an artist and be politically active, to have a voice, to do all the things that I do. So I mean, there isn’t anybody in my position," she explained.

While breaking down barriers, Madonna is not just a role model to people the world over, but especially to her own children. She opened up in an interview with Vanity Fair, as reported by People Magazine, about being happiest when "spending time with my kids." 

"And to see them happy, to witness their growth, to watch them evolve and then to find the things they love," Madonna added. "Most of my happiness comes from my children. And much more from the inspiration that some artists give me."

Weeks after the Grammy Awards controversy, Page Six reported that Madonna's relationship with Andrew Darnell, 23, is now over, leading the pop star to have a "crisis of confidence." A source told the publication: “It was only a very casual thing (with Darnell) so she’s not broken-hearted. It’s just that it has come at a bad time." They added:

“She’s having a bit of a crisis of confidence and this doesn’t help. She had a lot of fun with Andrew but it was never love or anything like that.”

The insider shared that the Queen of Pop is "throwing herself into (her upcoming) tour and is determined that not only will it be brilliant, but it will also thrust her back into the limelight."

"She wants to remind everyone what a star she is," they said.

Although Madonna hasn't weighed in on the alleged breakup herself, she hasn't spent any time moping about it, as she's continued her campaign against ageism. In a tweet posted in the same month, the singer shared a photo of herself with the caption:

"The world is threatened by my power and my stamina. My intelligence and my will to survive. But they will never break me this is all the test."

In a recently resurfaced interview with Jonathon Ross from 1992 — when Madonna was just 34 years old — the star spoke out against ageism, proving she's been walking the talk for over three decades. Madonna made it clear even back then that she's never had any plans to slow down her provocative career.

“I mean, a lot of people have said, ’Oh, that’s so pathetic, I hope she’s not still doing that in 10 years.’ I mean, who cares? What if I am? Is there a rule? ... Life is long. People are living to be a hundred years old, so I don’t get it,” she said.  

What are your thoughts on Madonna’s campaign against ageism? Do you believe women are unfairly held to strict standards once they get past a certain age? Let us know, and don’t forget to pass this along to friends and family to get their take on it, too.