Fiancée Clashes With In-Laws For Crashing Her Honeymoon With Their Dying Son

Oct 04, 2024

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Getting married is a beautiful experience for two people to share. It’s a way to solidify your relationship for the rest of your lives together, and most couples start that celebration by embarking on a fun and romantic honeymoon. This is usually when the newly married couple gets to spend quality time together, but this trip doesn’t always go as planned. It is a momentous occasion that couples enjoy for themselves as a way to discover more about each other. 

However, in the case of user Teacher0002 on the AITA Thread on Reddit, she was put in a complicated situation involving her terminally ill fiancé and his in-laws. According to the Original Poster (OP), her fiancé and his family weren’t close growing up. But after discovering that he only had two years left to live, they became closer and wanted to spend more time together than ever. 

While OP is not apprehensive about having her fiancé and his family spend more time together, she was particularly weirded out when the in-laws arranged a memorable trip for her fiancé’s birthday. 

“His family (very very wealthy) gifted us our honeymoon as our wedding gift. My husband and I chose puerto Vallarta because we wanted a relaxing resort vacation and to go snorkeling together. One last boujee trip for our bucklist. But - his parents also chose the dates of the honeymoon without asking us. So they chose to book the trip so that his birthday was during it,” OP wrote. 

Read on to learn more about what OP had to say about this bizarre set-up that her fiancé’s parents had organized and how she reacted to it. 

According to OP, her fiancé’s parents wanted to spend his last birthday with him, so they wanted to join them. Supposedly, the honeymoon was scheduled to take place a month after their wedding in February, but the parents bumped it to June to coincide with his birthday. 

“They did get their own suite at the resort, and both of his siblings got rooms at the resort too. Dont get me wrong, I am really grateful they are gifting us this experience. But I'm annoyed they deliberately made it during a time that they could conveniently join our HONEYMOON,” OP revealed. 

OP said that she understood that her fiancé wouldn’t fight back against his parents’ insistence on coming on the trip because he didn’t want to get into a fight with them. However, OP believed the parents could’ve booked a separate trip with just her fiancé.  

“Like I mentioned earlier, money is not an issue and could easily have been made into a separate trip, but they CHOSE to make the trip during his birthday so they had the excuse to join in. When they told us that they were also coming on the trip, I said that was a little strange,” OP added. 

After saying that it was “strange” for her in-laws to come on the trip, her in-laws got “mad” at her for “not understanding how important it is for them to spend my fiance’s birthday with him.” The family also thought OP was wrong for being “upset” about the trip. OP wondered if she was in the wrong for reacting the way she did.  

On the Reddit thread, people were divided about the OP’s dilemma, but many assured her that she was not wrong for feeling such strong emotions. 

“Here’s a hot take: this is a vacation. Treat it as such. If they’re paying, great. Enjoy it. Then go on your own honeymoon with just your spouse. Overall while it’s a weird situation, I get that they’re desperate to squeeze out every last enjoyable second they can before they lose their child. NAH (no a**holes here),” a Redditor commented.

“NAH. This situation is not the typical honeymoon situation. I think it’s understandable that you’re annoyed but it’s also understandable that his family would want to make some great memories with him before they lose him. The worst thing that could happen would be for your husband to have to witness you and his family fight over him and how distressing that would be for him. Those aren’t the kind of memories anyone wants to be making,” a user pointed out. 

Many had suggested that OP and her fiancé book another trip for themselves and call it their honeymoon instead of stressing too much. 

“Call it his birthday trip, and book a honeymoon somewhere else either before or after this trip, and pick something you can pay for yourselves,” one suggested.

“NTA however just call it what it really is, a family vacation. Plan something away for just the two of you & call that your honeymoon instead,” another said.

“NTA it's super weird they want to go on his honeymoon. I would just treat it as a regular vacation and go on a separate honeymoon,” one urged.

What do you think of OP’s dilemmas? Do you think she’s right for feeling distraught about her in-laws coming on their honeymoon? What would you have done differently? Let us know, and pass this on to your family, friends and other loved ones out there.