Bride-To-Be In Feud With Fiancé And In-Laws After They Object To Her Sister Walking Her Down The Aisle

Mar 21, 2023

Weddings, for most people, are a special and sentimental day to be remembered. For some, their wedding day should be perfectly planned, meticulously following every inch of the couple’s idea of what a “perfect” wedding should be.

Usually, the brides are the ones in charge of planning and coordinating everything that they want to come through on their special day. However, that was not the case for Reddit user @nosleepbeauty, who vented out her frustrations in the AITA forum on Reddit in March 2023.

The bride-to-be wondered if she was in the wrong for choosing to have her sister walk her down the aisle despite her fiancé and in-laws' stern objections.

“A few months ago I got engaged and I told my sister that in addition to being my maid of honor, I also wanted her to be the one to walk me down the aisle. All my life she's had to fulfill so many roles for me — big sister, mother, father, friend — that it only felt right that those multiple roles be honored on one of the biggest days of my life,” she recalled.

But despite wanting it, she faced strong opposition from her fiancé. Her soon-to-be husband objected to her idea even if she had already told him the sentimental reason why her sister should walk her down the aisle.

This argument she had with her fiancé sparked a talk with his relatives, to the point where her future mother-in-law called her and tried to make her agree with their traditional idea of a wedding.

“My MIL called me a few days ago to say that although she understand(s) how important my sister is to me, that it's also my fiancé's wedding and I shouldn't be putting my sister before him on his day,” she said. 

Even though the original poster's (OP) fiancé's family suggested that her future father-in-law should walk her down the aisle to fill the role of her sister, she politely declined their offer.

OP’s sister said that she doesn't mind what her fiancé's family wants and that she should just stick to being the Maid of Honor. More so, she doesn’t want her sister’s special day to be stressful.  

The majority of the Redditors sided with OP telling her that she was not in the wrong for proposing that her sister should walk her down the aisle. Some shared their point of view on the situation and others expressed their frustrations and conclusions over OP’s fiancé and future in-laws.

“Tell your MIL that your FIL can walk your fiancé down the aisle if he wants to give someone away. Or better yet, strongly consider not marrying into this family because they’re the assholes,” a Redditor suggested.

“They’re being pretty shitty about “tradition” considering OP doesn’t have parents. As if thats her fault or something,” another said.

Some users even suggested to OP to do the extreme – rethink her choices.

“I hate to say it, but you may want to put the wedding on hold, and re-evaluate if this is a family you wish to marry into. The "Traditional" roles could start small, but become something you hate. NTA, and I wish you the best of luck,” someone expressed.

“Die on this hill. Your fiancé and in laws value a pointless, misogynistic tradition more than your feelings. Don't choose a pointless, misogynistic tradition over your sister,” a user said.

If you were in OP’s position, would you be persistent with your choice of having your sister walk you down the aisle? Do you agree with the Redditors' points of view on strongly reconsidering her marriage? Let us know, and pass this on to your friends, family and people who you think would know the answer!