Bride Pulls Out Of Marriage On Wedding Day After Groom Smashes Her Face Into Cake & Their Families Are Angry At Her

Sep 13, 2023

Weddings should be a day of joy, but sometimes, unpleasant things can happen and make a great day turn sour. A woman revealed on Reddit on Aug. 28, 2023, that she wanted to annul her marriage because her husband pranked her against her wishes.

The woman, 27, and her husband, 29, dated for three years before they walked down the aisle some days before her post. In those three years, her husband displayed traits she regarded as immature but never selfish. The woman with the username Mindless-Charge-5996 shared that trouble started when her husband found videos of husbands smashing their wives’ faces into cakes and thought they were hilarious. However, she didn’t share his sentiment because of her negative experience with her abusive family. 

Her mom had smashed her face into her 17th birthday cake despite promising not to do so, and the original poster (OP) sustained a wound on her forehead from the decorations. 

“My birthday was ruined and after I wouldn't come out of my room. My mom still calls me a brat for that,” OP revealed.

She promised her husband she would leave him if he did the same to her, but he thought she was joking. On their wedding day, OP was happy to start a new life with her groom; her perfect hair and makeup attested to that. However, OP’s husband unexpectedly mashed a huge chunk of their $500 cake on her face, and then he and everyone, especially her family, laughed at her. 

“You should see your face,” he told her, laughing.

OP left the wedding while her husband told her she overreacted and got an Uber quickly. She moved plenty of her stuff from their place and stayed at a hotel before moving in with a friend. 

Her family, her husband’s family and her husband called several times asking her to return and not be “emotional.” In an update, OP disclosed that she asked her husband why he did it, and he replied that he wanted to score points with her family since it was a family tradition. 

“Then told me he's sorry that I took it as a disrespect,” she divulged. 

OP told him that wasn’t an apology and that he had never apologized to her. Meanwhile, he was the one who forced her to invite her abusive family. After he told her, “Why should I have to apologize because you can't take a joke,” tensions blew up.

“He then tried doubling down and saying it wasn't his fault for not apologizing because my family was telling him how dramatic I was and how I was hurting them by leaving the wedding for a joke. He said he loves me and he doesn't want to break up over this nonsense and that I should just come home,” she shared.

OP told him she couldn’t be with him anymore, and after he cursed at her, she hung up. Her family and his then called her to tell her she was making a mistake. Her mother told her she would die alone, and his sister cursed her before saying that her brother had cheated on her with his ex.

OP then blocked her ex and family members. In a second update, she shared that she just realized she ignored many red flags since she was used to being abused. She promised to stay away from relationships for a while upon a friend’s counsel and attend therapy.

“I'm still not speaking to my family and I think I'm just going to go no contact like people suggested,” she added.

Redditors supported her and stated that her family and husband were abusive people, so she was right to run from them. 

“Initially my husband and I planned on me just putting a little finger dollop of frosting on his nose. As everyone gathered around for the cutting, I realized that they'd angled the chocolate half of the cake towards us (it was half chocolate half traditional white). The chocolate frosting would look like I'd smeared shit on his face! I quickly whispered to him telling him so and we decided last second to just feed each other instead. Why is it so hard for couples to just communicate and make joint decisions??” someone shared.

A second Redditor expressed: “He sounds like the type of guy who would have pushed any button when told not to. I am so glad she ran before having children with this guy.” 

A third person wrote: “I don’t remember where I saw or heard this, but I remember someone who worked at weddings… I think as a planner or photographer, etc. They said the most telling sign of if a marriage was going to make it, was the cutting of the cake. The ones who didn’t agree on what they ultimately did, says a lot about their relationship- communication, respect and understanding of each other."

Someone shared: “I’ve also read that once you start to get treatment, being in a relationship with a 'normal' person may actually feel wrong and boring because it’s not toxic. You’re used to toxic. Grew up in toxic. Know who you are and how others treat you in a toxic scenario. Once out of it, you don’t know how to react. But, you can get past that.”

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