Bride Defies Critics After Clip Of Husband Hurling Wedding Cake At Her Head Draws Flak

Jun 27, 2023

There are many traditions that take place during weddings, and one of the more silly ones is the cake smash between the bride and groom. Typically, the couple each takes a piece of cake and lovingly smashes some of it onto the other’s face. It’s not an elegant moment typically, but in a video that was shared on TikTok in January 2021, one groom took the term cake smash a little too far.

The video was posted online by the bride, Kelsey Carson, who goes by the TikTok username @kelsboyd3. Kelsey and her husband Tony are both from Kingston, Tennessee. Since January 2021, the video has been viewed over 4 million times, and many users felt that the groom’s actions were too aggressive and were a red flag. 

In the TikTok, you saw Kelsey smash just a little bit of cake on her groom’s cheek. Then, in a shocking turn of events, Tony picked up nearly the entire three-tiered wedding cake and threw it at the bride’s head. The weight of the cake almost knocked Kelsey off of her feet. 

The video ended before we could see much of Kelsey or the crowd’s reactions, but people who saw the video online were quick to share their concerns with the bride. Some said Tony looked angry when he threw the cake and that the marriage would likely end in divorce. Kelsey said she found it funny, but that hasn’t persuaded commenters who insisted the cake smash was a sign of a violent person. Read on to hear more reactions to the wedding video. 

The twist that Tony put on the typical cake smash was meant to be a joke, but many viewers saw it as a red flag. 

"That's not just aggressive but so embarrassing? If he's comfortable doing that in front of all her friends and family... scary," wrote one viewer in response to the video, according to the Mirror, though comments have since been deactivated and removed from the original TikTok post. The outlet also reported a comment as reading: "DIVORCE ON THE NEXT LEVEL." 

If you paused the video at the end, you could see that Kelsey was laughing, so some people jumped to Tony’s defense. “They both found it funny … it’s none of anyone else’s business,” one person wrote. Still, the majority of viewers were not convinced that the cake-throwing was all in good fun. A TikTok user commented, “But the way his face looks angry and he throws the whole cake … yeah, no.”

Kelsey, however, defended her husband and wrote in a since-removed comment reported by the Mirror: 

"This is us and it was funny to everyone. I’m sorry that you have a different sense of humor," 

Kelsey’s statement prompted another commenter that wrote: “This is incredibly sad. It’s not a prank, it was disrespectful and kind of embarrassing for you even if you don’t see that.”

In an attempt to show people that the couple indeed had a different and loving side to them, the bride ended up uploading a montage of loved-up and cozy photographs of the pair to try and ease the criticism. Kelsey also showed she has not been swayed by any of the criticism and — at the time of publishing this story — updated her TikTok profile with the phrase, “A CAKE never hurt anyone.” 

Do you think the groom took the joke too far? What would you do in this situation? Let us know, and feel free to pass this along to your friends and family.