According to a Therapist, This Means You're a Good Mother

Sep 13, 2018

The life-loving hippie mother Constance Hall from Australia runs the blog likeaqueen.com. On her blog, Constance writes freely about the things that trouble her soul and shows that she is anything but perfect. This honesty is certainly welcome by us.

A recent post from the blog expresses what has probably been weighing on the hearts of many mothers and should alleviate their heavy conscious. Constance mentions a friendly child therapist, who she had met a few weeks earlier. The therapist looked at Constance and then her two children and declared: "You are a great mother." Constance responded to this compliment with a loud laugh. She admitted that she does not always feel like a great mother, because her kids drive her crazy sometimes and she sometimes looses her nerves or patience.

Does this sound familiar? Then you should be interested by how the therapist responded:

Babies cry, which is completely normal, because that's how they communicate. Toddlers scream; schoolchildren complain; teenagers are often grouchy. Mothers acknowledge this with murmured curses before they answer their children. Those words are just our way of communicating with the child. This is certainly better than being silent.

A healthy household has screaming children, bickering siblings, and ranting parents. The kids are constantly asking their parents questions, which leaves them feeling drained and without a moment for their own thoughts. The noise is just an indicator of a healthy house.

You should be much more concerned about the household where the children are silent. These are the homes where the children are scared and the teenagers do not ever come back. In these types of households, the parents never talk with their children, because they just pass by each other like roommates.

Look at it this way: It wasn't your kids that made you crazy - you were crazy from the beginning. If you weren't, you would never have decided to have kids.

There is probably nothing more to say on this point. Of course the constant screaming and arguing is exhausting. However, it is undoubtably healthy for your family in the long run. So, we give you permission to be proud of yourself if your children annoy you from time to time.

Make your friends aware of this article, so that they know they're allowed to be annoyed with their children sometimes. In a way, it may even be a good sign.