A Mother Speaks Plainly: The State is Abandoning Single Parents

Sep 25, 2018

Full-time job, children, household - life is particularly difficult for single mothers. There is not much time left between carrying shopping bags, raising children and earning money. Many mothers are at their limits and don't know how they can continue doing it all. One of them has now written a book about her daily struggle for survival. She gives tips and also draws attention to the political grievances.

She has a full-time job, a 13-year-old son and a household. Even if she hardly has any energy, she gets everything done. What's more, she does everything with pleasure. For her son's sake.

It is difficult enough for normal families with two parents to juggle work and family life. But doing it all by yourself is certainly much more difficult. A single mother definitely benefits from planning every day in advance and giving each a firm structure. The author always chooses a main priority for the day. The rest must be second in comparison to it. This way the most important things can always be done. This is not always easy in our performance focused society. Unfortunately, the lack of stability always affects the weakest link in the chain: the children.

According to the mother, the state does not help single mothers. A day has only 24 hours and everything must get done. We have to keep going. All that remains for single moms is to see the good in their situation and to accept things as they are.

There are women who life has dealt a particularly bad hand. Some women have to take part-time jobs in addition to full-time work to support their families. Often the child support from the father of the child is missing. Some have no friends and no family of their own to lean on. They are alone with their children in this world. Who's helping them?

There are numerous family counseling centers that are free to use and are open for single mothers at any time of day. This is a great place for women to go to get help organizing their daily lives. The author of the book assures us that the sooner you look for help, the better your situation will be.

The single mother gives some tips here as well. It's all about not losing the courage and strength to live and being able to always laugh. What you need is a strong network: a friend to talk to and/or caring and experienced grandparents. Then you have the option to leave your child with them, so that you can have some time for yourself. It also takes a lot of pressure off of you if you can't pick up your child from kindergarten if work lasts a little longer than it was supposed to.

It is important to have people you can rely on, both physically and mentally. If you, as a single mother, have alternative possibilities and flexibility, you can confidently say no to something you don't want or that won't work for your family.

Do you know single mothers who still are masters of their everyday life and are great mothers? Are there any of these strong women in your life or are you one yourself? Tell us your story and show the articles to your friends to give them strength!