9 Signs The Person You Love Isn't The One For You
Sep 03, 2018
Toxic relationships are common, and we have all had our share. When looking from the outside in, leaving a harmful relationship Is much easier said than done. However, if you are currently in the toxic relationship, remaining involved with your partner could be a result of many reasons.
Being alone may seem a lot more daunting than being in a bad relationship. Your love for them could cloud your judgment or lead you to not want to bring any hurt to your partner. Maybe you feel that what you are going through is normal, especially if this is your first real relationship.
Eventually, the relationship will become too much to handle. As a result, the opportunity to observe the relationship and its connection to your happiness will present itself. Toxic relationships are not healthy, and you deserve to be happy. There is someone out there made especially for you who you can share a happy life with. Not all relationships are toxic and not all are unhealthy.
1. Lack of trust.
Healthy relationships are built on trust. Those lacking trust will not last very long. No matter the level of jealousy you feel while in a relationship, your trust for your partner should overrule that jealousy. Knowing without a doubt that your partner would never do anything to intentionally hurt you will support a long-lasting relationship. Your lack of distrust isn’t necessarily a result of something your partner has done. Instead, it may be present due to past experiences.
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2. Feeling like you're not enough.
Feeling as though you are less than your partner is not healthy. If your partner is the cause of this and actively places themselves above you, your partner does not have your best interests at heart. Relationships should never be one-sided. You and your partner should work together to make each other feel that you are both the most important constantly.
3. Your future together is not clear.
Not being able to see a clear future with your partner does not mean that your relationship is toxic. Instead, it could mean that you two aren’t necessarily right for one another. It is logical not being able to see yourself marrying them after the first date. However, if you have been in a relationship with them for some time and don’t see your partner in your future or can imagine living a life that does not include the other, this may be a sign that you two are not meant for each other.
4. You find yourself in a state of sadness more so than happiness.
For outsiders this may be a tell-tell sign that the relationship is toxic. For the individual in the relationship, it can be hard to come to terms with what is happening. If you are in a relationship and find that you are sadder than you are happy, pursuing the relationship is not a good option. Though it can be hard to acknowledge that you are sad more often than happy, moving on is the healthy choice to make.
5. You don’t tell your friends the truth about your relationship.
Holding things back about your relationship could be a sign that you are in one that is toxic. You’re afraid to share certain parts about your relationship with your close friends and relatives as a result of knowing that they will all tell you that it is not healthy and better is what you deserve.
6. Tiptoeing to avoid fights.
Fights are bound to happen. Avoiding them at all costs for fear that your partner will react off of the smallest thing is not healthy. This is an indicator of a toxic relationship. No matter the level of stress that has taken place throughout the day, you should not be at the receiving end of that stress. The circumstances of the day are not your fault.
7. Problems left unattended.
Mistakes will be made in relationships. It’s a part of life. However, if your partner assures you that forgiveness has been granted in response to a past mistake that you made and still holds somewhere within them a grudge, problems are sure to arise. Throwing up the past after claiming to have forgiven the person is not healthy. Good communication can solve this issue.
8. Seeking attention outside of your relationship.
Seeking attention from others does not have to equal cheating. However, if you are searching for attention from someone other than your partner, something could be wrong in your relationship. This should not be ignored.
9. Your partner isn’t able to lighten your mood.
It is nice to be able to come home after a bad day and find comfort in your partner. Having someone there to bring a smile to your face, no matter your mood, is nice. Being able to share your problems with your partner offers great rewards in a healthy relationship. If you are unable to do this, you may not be with the right person.
Not all relationships are the same. Finding the strength to remove yourself from a toxic relationship doesn’t come with ease. Once you do find the strength to leave, you will never want to return.
Have you experienced any toxic relationships? How is your life better now that you no longer are in a toxic relationship? Let us know in the comments!