8 Reasons I'm Not Afraid To Be Alone, I'm Afraid To Be With Someone Who Doesn't Give A Damn

Sep 27, 2018

There is nothing wrong with being alone. It's O.K. to trust yourself, to test the waters of a relationship before diving in. As a matter of fact, I'm really not afraid of being alone. However, I do fear being with someone who simply doesn't care about me or my feelings.

I'm more afraid of being with someone who doesn't understand that sometimes being alone is all I need. I want someone who knows how to respect my own desires and beliefs, and who has some sense of individuality. I don't need to be with someone every waking second--space is good sometimes, and I need someone who understands.

I'm not afraid of being single, I'm more afraid of someone who holds me back and restricts my creativity. I don't want to be held back; I want to do the things I want to do, and I need someone who truly understands the value of personal boundaries.

Listen - I have no problem with spending tie with myself. I know everything there is to know about me, and I know how to satisfy my urge to try new foods, see new movies, or to try on new clothes.

However, I am afraid of being with someone negative, who's own essence squanders the moods of others in their social circle. I can't stand the thought of being with someone who attracts drama, someone who makes things about themselves and has no thought about how others are feeling. A relationship should be reciprocal, not beneficial for only one of us.

My bed is plenty comfortable as is. I'm really not scared of sleeping in my bed by myself--it's nothing, really. I'm scared that something will happen and one day I'll wake up next to someone who I realize I know nothing about.

I want to be honest with someone, unafraid of the truth because the truth is all we know. I want to be told the truth, not lies, and most of all I want to feel trusted and safe enough to trust back. I'm scared someone will say all the right things and turn out to be someone I know nothing about.

How else can one learn if they're not allowed to make mistakes? I'm not afraid of making the wrong choice when it comes to life--things happen and I always learn. I'm not afraid that the person I'm with will make mistakes either, because I know they will.

I'm afraid I'll give all my love and affection to someone who isn't right for me, someone who I don't share anything in common with. I'm afraid I'll open up to someone who doesn't open up to me.

There's a level of physicality that comes with being in a relationship. However, I'm afraid that physicality will come at the expense of feeling true emotions towards someone. I don't want to be with someone who I share a physical attraction with, but not a mental connection.

I need someone who's willing to explore all depths of a relationship, including feelings of love, compassion, warmth, and trust. I can't be with someone who only thinks about the physical, without putting in a thought or effort about how to grow on an emotional level with someone.

I'm not afraid to have small talk with someone; I'm afraid of being someone who can't sustain a genuine, heartfelt conversation about things that actually matter in life. I don't care about "shooting the breeze," I want depth with the words I exchange with someone I care about.

And I don't want someone who smiles and assures me about anything--that just means they're not really listening. I want someone who picks up on all the little details, who really knows me, and who can speak their mind openly will keeping an open mind when I talk to them.

You can't go through life without crying. Crying is reasonable and healthy. However, I'm afraid that I'll be with someone who's simply along for the ride. I can't be with someone who speaks their love and acts on passion, but isn't afraid to call it quits once they get bored.

I don't want to live within an illusion of a relationship, something that seems too good to be true. I want to be with someone who's as vulnerable as me, and who won't end things without talking things through. Simply put, I'm afraid of just being crushed in the end.

I'm not afraid of myself or being alone. I'm afraid I'll give my love and honor to someone who simply doesn't deserve it. I want someone to champion our love, not belittle it. I'd much rather be alone than with someone who can't back up the things they say. I'm looking for true love, after all, not a fling.

I want someone who's proud to be with me, someone who looks at me as the person I really am and who respects me all the same. I'm afraid of giving my all to someone who doesn't even care about me the way I do them.

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