7 Attractive Habits (That Have Nothing To Do With Physical Appearance)

Sep 25, 2018

When you consider the type of people you're attracted to, every person will have a different physical taste. There's no scientific formula to calculate beauty. The features we find attractive can't be predicted or quantified. But there are certain behaviors that are attractive across the board. These 7 habits can help you attract romantic partners and foster longer-lasting romantic relationships.

Many people don't have any clue what qualities make them attractive to others. However, if you emulate these attractive qualities, you're more likely to find a romantic partner who clicks with you. Some of them take practice, but that's okay.

Confidence is sexy! No matter what your gender, age, race, or sexual orientation, everyone is attracted to a confident person. A confident person lets everyone around them know that they have a sense of self-worth, and that that sense of self-worth is more important than what anybody else thinks. Some of the attraction might be because of the age-old trope: People love someone who doesn't care what they think. But it goes deeper than that.

Insecure people don't project a strong sense of self. They spend so much time worrying about blending in that they fail to stand out to potential romantic partners. A confident person, on the other hand, will let you know what they're about just from the way they carry themselves.

As far as long-term relationships go, confidence is also good for the relationship health. Insecurities and self-loathing can drive people to seek validation from their partner, which can lead to emotional exhaustion. Especially if you reject the validation. When your partner tells you that you're beautiful, your instinctive response shouldn't be, "No, I'm not."

Get in touch with the things you like about yourself. Tend and nurture those parts of yourself until they bloom like flowers in a garden. You should also practice caring about your own opinion before anyone else's. "I really like this sweater, but what if other people think it looks bad on my body?" Who cares what other people think? You want to wear the sweater, and you deserve to be happy, so you should wear the sweater.

Practice being open and sincere in all of your interpersonal relationships, not just your romantic ones. You'll notice that the relationships improve immediately. If people are irritated with your sincerity, they weren't worth being around in the first place. If something another person does bothers you, tell them. If something they do amazes you, tell them. Let people know what's on your mind instead of bottling things up. Your voice deserves to be heard.

When you can, practice emotional vulnerability. Let people see what you're feeling rather than hiding behind a mask. This kind of openness policy will do wonders for communication in any relationship, and it will also make you a more dynamic, attractive person.

Learn to laugh. Everyone has a sense of humor, although each person's sense of humor is different. But did you realize that you can actively use a sense of humor in day-to-day situations?

When things go wrong, you have a choice to get upset or to let it roll off your back. Practice facing tough situations with a humorous slant. Find some aspect of the situation that makes you feel positive rather than negative.

Nurturing your sense of humor will lead to more positive, healthy emotional experiences overall. It's a good thing to do for your own mental health. A positive attitude is more likely to attract romantic partners, and it makes for a longer-lasting romantic relationship than constant negativity.

Too often, people find themselves chastised for their excitement as they grow up. We learn to bury the things we care about and pretend nothing interests us. But a lack of passion isn't enlightened. It's just sad.

When we say to "be passionate," we don't mean in the bedroom. (Although that can be a plus!) Instead, try finding your passion about things unrelated to relationships. What's a hobby that you enjoy? What kind of music makes you feel great? What causes do you care about?

Pick something that matters to you and just... let it matter to you. Let it fill up your soul with feeling. Let yourself fall in love with your favorite parts of the world, unabashedly and unreservedly.

Falling in love with the world around you will teach you to fall in love with other people. You'll learn to appreciate everything about them. They, in turn, will be transfixed by the energy and positive vibes you carry.

It's all too common for a lack of decision making to cause missed opportunities. How many times have you stayed alone all night because you couldn't decide where to go out? How many outings have fizzled with friends because you couldn't pick a restaurant?

Practice making decisions and following through on them. Decisive people are in control of their own lives and living the lives they want to live. This is extremely attractive.

Our society can be cynical. We sometimes forget the value of being kind. But human beings crave kindness and tenderness. Practice being kind to both yourself and other people. When you can help someone, do so. When you can make a difference in someone's day, don't be afraid. Kind people often find others gravitating toward them, and their relationships have a deeper emotional satisfaction.

Make the effort to accept your partner's friends and family, even if they seem off-putting at first. Accepting your partner's friends and giving them a chance is a basic part of supporting your partner. Relationships built on mutual support last much longer than relationships without a supportive foundation.

What habits and qualities do you tend to find most attractive in a person? We would love to hear about your experience in the comments.