6 Ways To Know Whether You Love Someone Or Are In Love With Them

Aug 28, 2018

Love is certainly a complicated thing. Often times, people say that words fail to truly grasp the meaning of love. The hardest part about love is that there isn't a fine line between loving someone and not loving them, and this can cause a lot of pain and confusion to people. Without a doubt, love is something that either happens or doesn't, but there are also different versions of loving someone.

In this article, you are going to learn about 6 key differences between being in love and loving someone.

Being In Love Is Not A Choice

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The first major difference between being in love and loving someone is that being in love is not a choice, whereas loving someone is. Think about it in regard to your family. Loving your siblings and parents is something that most people do, but it is a choice that you make. There typically isn't any kind of romantic connection between you and your family members, but the fact that they are family means that you should love them no matter what.

When it comes to being in love, this occurs with a non-family member and is something that happens without you having the chance to initiate or stop it.

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Being In Love Never Ends

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Another one of the biggest differences between being in love and loving someone is that being in love never ends. As we discussed before, loving someone is something that you have control over. When you have control over something, it usually means that you can end it.

Being in love and having no control means that you can't end it, and if you are or were really in love, this feeling will never go away. The person that you are in love with can be out of sight and out of mind, but the love will never fade.

Being In Love Means Wanting Happiness For Them

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When you love someone, you usually try to equalize the happiness between the two of you. If you are not happy and neither is a person you love, you may try to find ways to change the way that the both of you feel. When you are in love, all that you care about is making this person happy. If this person is unhappy, it makes you unhappy because all that you want for them is to be happy.

While you probably want to be the person that makes them happy, this isn't always the case. If you are really in love with them and you know that you aren't the one that is going to make them happy (although you very well could be), then you would let them go so that they could find happiness.

Being In Love Is Taken Slowly 

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The timeline of falling in love with someone is different than that of coming to love someone. If you are in love with someone, it means that you have spent quite a bit of time getting to know them and everything about them. Chances are that they probably know everything about you as well. In regard to loving someone, it usually happens quickly and causes a sudden rush of compassion and emotions for this person. While loving someone can consist of super positive and super negative emotions for someone, being in love usually comes on gradually and your love doesn't change once it is there.

Being In Love Is Romantic And Borderline Obsessive

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When you are in love with someone, it means that you are kind of obsessed with them. On top of that, love is usually a romantic thing meaning that you have a strong physical and emotional attraction to them. When you love someone, you like to spend a lot of time with them because you enjoy their company. When you are in love, you want this person to be with you all day every day and conquer your life tasks by your side.

Being In Love Means That You Think About Them All The Time

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The final difference between being in love and loving somebody is that you will think about them all the time. Not only will you think about them just because you want them to be present, but you will also think about them in regard to your future. When you imagine having kids or getting a house, they will be a big part of your thought process.

You will essentially have your life planned out revolving around this person and if they are in love with you too, they will do the same.

Hopefully, reading this article has given you a better idea concerning the idea of being in love and the idea of loving someone. Both of these concepts are similar, but also very different in that regard. Whether you love someone or are in love with them, there is no doubting that they are very important to you. In the end, anyone who loves you should be treated with respect and deserves to know exactly how you feel.

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