3 Essential Life Lessons You Learn After Your Mother Dies

May 22, 2018

Death is inevitable for everyone and although we are all aware of that fact, it is difficult to face losing someone you love. You will experience the pain of the loss and you will somehow wish you could dial back the time. When your mother - the person who gave you life - passes away, your emotions and feelings become almost intolerable. You can't help but think: how is it possible to overcome this grief?

While still a young child, a writer’s mother died of ovarian cancer. This writer decided to share the three life lessons she learned following her mother’s death.

Firstly, according to the writer, following the loss of your mother, you will realize that the grieving process is not linear.
 

You will not experience the grief at its highest point immediately after your loss, followed by a constantly diminishing amount of grief from that point onward. In fact, your grief may never completely diminish or you may never experience the grief at its highest point of pain.

Not only is grieving a natural process, there are emotions associated with it that you should allow yourself to express fully in order for you to gain some closure. You will experience emotions of sadness, guilt, sorrow, fear, anger and sometimes peace. It could be an exhaustive process for you to recognize and allow expression to these emotions, but doing so will provide closure and the healing you will need following your mother’s death.

Secondly, although you will never be able to replace your mother, you will eventually be able to move on.
 

A technique that may help you do so would be to find in others the qualities and abilities your mother possessed and that you admired and benefited from. It will not be the same as still having your mother around, but it will go a long way to fill the void you will feel.

Thirdly, you should be sure to recognize those around you who love and support you.
 

This could include your father, your siblings, your partner, or even extended family members. These are the people most likely to understand what you are going through, as they will have experienced their own grieving process following your mother’s death. They will be there for you when you're feeling your worst.

Has this helped you reflect on your grieving process? Did you learn similar lessons after the loss of a loved one? Show this to your friends and family to help them face loss with strength and courage, as well.